The man or the woman, or both? Why?
Men, do you feel like your masculinity is being challenged if you don't pay? Women, do you feel offended if a guy won't let you pay?
Please mention in the comments below what country you are from. Also, for any gay / queer relationships, I'd like to know what you have experienced as well.
- ManVote A
- WomanVote B
- OtherVote C
Most Helpful Guy
NO ONE should pay for early dates - you shouldn't plan early dates that cost money, or at most, more than a trivial amount of money. Instead, your early dates should be based on spending time together talking with each other, learning if the two of you will be compatible in a long-term relationship (you essentially have to interview each other, asking about important issues like family, children, religion, finances, where you'll live, etc.).
You shouldn't spend any significant amount of money on a date until you're both pretty sure you've got long-term compatibility - and part of that should have included things like "how to fairly split the cost of dates."
I've been told on a number of occasions that my first date with a girl was "the best first date she'd ever been on" - and I spent nothing or nearly nothing on the date. If you need to spend money to impress her, then your game is WEAK (and ultimately, it won't work, unless she's a gold digger in the first place).
I can hardly believe that this is an almost daily question here, when the solution is VERY simple.5
Most Helpful Girl
It should be split between the people on the date.9