So, this will be a long one. Ever since I was in high school I never got much attention from guys. My two or three best freinds got hit on, got asked ot the school dances (in fact when my best friend got a promposal last year, as happy as i was for her, i felt so hurt inside because i wanted us to share the night together, but never the less, that isn't the point. I don't think I'm ugly but I always wondred if guys didn't like me because im curvier and have a more "mature looking" body than the average girl (I'm not fat, but my weight has always been an insecurity and I have started to feel lonely and have turned to comfort eating) Never the less, I would say im voluptous (and I can share pictures if you think this is affecting it) --and I get most o you are going to say it's myy self confidence-which I totally understand, but my best freind would hate on herself all day and guys still flocked to her. I don;t know if its because im more exotic looking, or if its because of my weight ot if its because im shy or if its because im ugly or what--but now that im in university and guys still dont seem to notice i can't help but wonder what's wrong with me and I cry about this all the time. It's hard for me to let go of those feelings of wanting to be diserable. I am trying to get my weight back ont rack but its been rough especially manging school and work and recently losing a lot of my freinds (as they would lash out at me). I also live alone in an apartment which doesn't help the loneliness. I know this is just a stupid website but I just need to some form of reassurance. The last guy I liked played me and this was over 3 years ago, and it still hurts. xoxo?
Most Helpful Guy
A lot of the time it's just luck of the draw, don't take any of it personally. Maybe you just haven't been lucky enough to have guys in your life that are attracted to you and your friends have been and because you're comparing your situation to their's it's making you feel worse.
No one will ever be liked by anyone, that's a simple fact. I've had girls who have been crazy about me and I've had girls who have flat out wanted nothing to do with me, but I don't care about them. I aim to put myself out there for those that are interested. You've been unlucky and haven't found those that are interested, but they are out there, you've just got to find them.
In the mean time, look at yourself and make sure you're the person you want to be or you're taking positive actions in order to become the person you want to be. It will increase your confidence so much and I'm talking about true inner confidence, confidence where you can get shut down by everyone and still come home, look in the mirror and be completely content with who you are as a person.1
Most Helpful Girl
I kind of know what you mean - my best friend is such a gorgeous human being and is the one who gets all the attention from guys. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't jealous of her beauty and outgoing personality 😞 I'm very shy, introverted and can't seem put myself out there to save my life. Since you said you're shy too, perhaps guys find us a bit unapproachable? Ah I wish I knew the answer 😭 But just remember that you're a beautiful gal and don't need a man's attention to justify your worth :) x1