I got into a argument with one of my female friends. For over two months, we had become very close. We texted all the time, hung out numerous times a week, and she became close with my family. Then boom she stops talking to me, so i decided to wait to hear from her instead of me contacting her. I didn't hear from her for 3 weeks, so i waited to talk to her at work and she just walked right by me. I asked one of our coworkers whats going on, and he said that she said she needed a break from our friendship so i would get over my feelings for her. I was upset and i messaged her asking why she couldn't just talk to me about this? She said she never said any of that, and that her life was stressful, and she was keeping to herself lately. I told her thats not what i heard and she kept on denying it. So i said i've always been a good friend to her and i've never pressured her, or pushed her for anything. that i've always been there for her and she hasn't been there for me at all during the last couple weeks (something happened in my family). She never responded but the next day our co-worker said she was talking about it her whole shift. I don't think i'm ever going to hear from her again. but if i do decide talk to her how long should i wait? I've had a lot of time to think about it and i think she's avoiding her feelings i know for a fact she's been doing stuff on purpose to get my attention.
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She's obviously very pent up about whatever you guys argued about. Seems to me what she's trying to do is trying to look like it didn't bother her at all and get more distant because she's having a hard time hiding it. Either she lost the argument big time or she felt really offended at something you said and she wants you to apologize for it, except you don't even know what you did wrong.
She's trying to play mind games with you (whether she's aware of it herself or not) and she wants you to be the first one to apologize or spill your feelings out to her. She's been too much in her own head recently and thinks that the only thing that matters is her, which is probably why she didn't seem to care about your family incident.
I suggest that you just ignore her antics until she comes up to you with something substantial to talk about. All she wants you to do is to get you to "lose the fight" with her by being the one who opens up first. I know this because I've done this type of shit before and it never ends well. Since then, I've stopped just cause it either gets people nowhere or it just makes things worse.2
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