Girls, what kind of guys do you approach?
I go to parties with my friends, I notice girls will talk to them, approach them, start conversations...
I rarely/never get approached.
How can I change this?
What makes you go talk to a guy? ( I know it's not looks, because I do look better than my friend)
Most Helpful Girl
It really depends because most girls like different things and also most girls won't approach guys. This also depends on the size of parties you go to and how much alcohol is involved. A girl who approaches you at a small or work-related party is just trying to be friendly. A girl in a sorority party who just took 10 Jell-O shots is trying to laid.
What kind of parties do you go to and what kind of girls are you trying to find and what kind of relationship or lackthereof are you looking for.
As a rule of thumb, I avoid talking to people in general unless they're approach me first. Guys, girls, friends, people looking to date me, whatever. But if I'm in a small group of people that one of my friends knows, then I'll act friendly and get to know everyone
Your body language also plays a huge role in this. I have to tell my best friend all the time that guys aren't going to hit on her if she's looking at her phone the whole night. Most people don't know enough about body language to know if they're putting off bitchy or unapproachable vibes0
Most Helpful Guy
Most of the times, girls will just not approach you because you're either talking to someone already, occupied or your body language is closed to yourself.
If that's so, then girls might have the mentality of thinking: he's having a convo with someone, I'd rather not disturb it and make it awkward.
Or usually she might feel too shy for intimidated. The better looking a guy is, the harder it is for the girl to approach.
Next time, if you want to get approached, just have an open attitude, and look around, not talking to anyone. This is when you feel most awkward, and the tension is tough to bare because you'll feel all exposed, yet isolated, but that's when you're most approachable.
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