Genuinely curious about this. I see on here a lot of responses to questions about people being used and tossed aside in relationships, especially women askers, and the responses tend to be, "Well, it's your fault. You should've seen the signs." Do you really believe the victim is more at fault than the liar?
I'm not talking about people who did see the signs and ignored them. I'm talking about ones who genuinely didn't see or recognize the signs of a user/abuser until they got dumped or ghosted or something like that.
- It's more the victim's fault. They should learn to recognize the signs.5% (4)9% (6)7% (10)Vote
- It's more the user's fault. Stop being an ass.68% (50)50% (32)60% (82)Vote
- They're both equally at fault.27% (19)41% (26)33% (45)Vote