I met this girl a few weeks ago and I feel like I am talking to a female version of myself when I talk with her. I'd elaborate on the details but I don't want to bore you, basically she is the only girl I've ever met to be this similar to me.
Oh... and she is probably the hottest girl I've ever met. She has guys all over the place, guys that pretty much worship her, and more importantly guys that are stronger, more handsome, and more outgoing than I am. Even though she likes hanging out with me, I just feel so inferior to some of the other guys she is with, I want to date her so badly because girls like this just never come along for me, but I don't know what to do.
I am fairly outgoing but very inexperienced with girls which means I am shy around girls I like... so I feel pretty bad when I see her talking to guys that say everything exactly right, and who are funnier/less shy than I am.
Most Helpful Girl
You can't have that attitude. Saying she's out of your league, comparing yourself to other guys she talks to is basically sabotaging yourself bc you tell your brain that you can't get her, and therefore u won't. If you continue this way you'll only ruin it before you even got a chance to show her what you got. What you should do is be yourself, sounds cliché i know but it's true. Be you, show her who YOU are and what she'd lose if she turns you down. You gotta be prepared that that's a possibility. No matter how much or how little of an effort you do she could still turn you down. Not your fault. She could end up with a really good guy or a bad guy, someone you'd never expect or someone you'd totally expect (in your case the guys YOU think are better than you). It's really out of your hands and it's impossible for u to guess who she'd choose. In her eyes you could be better looking than those guys, you could be smarter you could be more stupid. Why? Bc no matter what you think you can't know how things look from her point of view. What you do know however is that you have a connection, you like her and you feel like she gets you. Take your opportunity, make an effort and show her who YOU are. Don't let your insecurities bring you down. Believe in yourself and give it a try. If it works then great if not, well then you two were just not supposed to be together, but be confident in the fact that you tried and that there's someone else out there for you.
Most Helpful Guy
First and foremost, no such thing as "out of your league". Drop the "player" terminology.
Girls prefer guys who can understand them, so that's a plus in your book. As long as you're not worshiping her you'll be just fine. Don't be afraid to voice your opinion, especialy when she doesn't share it (don't get into stupid arguments though, but TAKE A STAND). Girls like that.
And most importantly, stop worrying. Chances are, a lot of those guys that are orbiting her are similar to eachother, which is a major turnoff. So be yourself, don't be afraid to voice your opinion, and most importantly, flirt. Don't blend in with the rest of mindless guys she knows, be the best version of yourself.1