When I was younger, it was all about love. I didn't care if he had -$200 in the back. I was all about love. Now that I'm older, its like he must have his own money. I feel bad because it feels like I'm losing myself because I never thought money will be that important in a relationship. It has always been strictly about love for me. Am I wrong for wanting him to be somewhat financially stable? And how do I get back to not caring about how much he has as long as I love him?
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I feel this way too. I think it's mainly because as much as we want to say that love is enough. We need to also make sure we are okay financially. Not saying the guy needs to be a millionaire or even make as much as me. But he must be working and must have some income.
Realistically, it takes 2 people to run a household now a days. Single people struggle!
I know if I work all day and come home to see a guy who isn't working sit on the couch and play video games and yell at me (about when dinner is going to be ready) the minute I walk through the door, I will feel really resentful towards him. And I can probably safely say that relationship wouldn't work out.
I'm not interested in being someone's nanny, or mom or caregiver. I just want a guy who is going to help contribute too. A relationship is a partnership, and both people need to contribute. I think in todays world it only makes sense to not want a partner who is going to mooch off of you.1