I just read an interesting article - see the link below. It is a bit long so if you can't be bothered to read all of it, it can mostly be summarized like this: there are plenty of fish in the sea but it is overflowing with angry, bitter men and stuck-up, deluded women.
Do you agree with the article?
Most Helpful Girl
No, I don't think this is the case for all women. I read the blog post and I don't feel like I fit into any of those categories. Yet here I am, on Plenty of Fish and not inundated with messages. If I am a person who doesn't fit into those categories, then there must be others like me who are just gals (and guys) actually trying to find love.
I think the problem with online dating isn't necessarily the women, it's the fake profiles or people who are only on there for s**t's and giggles. Because there are still people saying "I'm kind of skeptical about this whole thing" or "I'm willing to lie about how we met". Then why even be on the dating site? Those are typically the people who are too afraid to actually message someone or respond or even meet someone. I get online can be scary, but if they never try how will they know if it works?
Then there's the fake profiles created to get people to join.
Online dating is frustrating. But I keep doing it because I have a hard time meeting people in real life. That sounds sad, and it is. But unfortunately people in my area just don't get me. I'm labelled "weird". I come from a small town and that hurts your reputation.
The only thing weird about me is that I don't choose to follow suit with what everyone else is doing. I do my own thing. I have my own passions and I can't be bothered to keep up with other people. But that bothers people from where I am from. Everything is about status and if you aren't trying for status, then you are looked down upon :( .
If someone doesn't message me back, I just move on. No point in analyzing the situation any further. There are a whole slew of reasons why a person doesn't respond. (Too busy, met someone, isn't that serious about dating, or not interested). There are so many!
Plus the blog post is kind of biased "One, who considered himself above average in looks, ..." Isn't this guy overreaching? I mean maybe he's not as good looking as he thinks either? Beauty is subjective. If a person has a huge list of demands, I walk the other way.
I've made profiles of guys to see what women are asking for. I've yet to come across one where they demanded to be treated like a princess. Most women are like me, but different. They have their own interests and things that they like to do for hobbies. Some travel, some write, while others are having amazing careers.
Some people will have egos. But for most of us, we are just trying to find love.
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Most Helpful Guy
I can definitely see online dating have an impact on men & women. Especially POF where men can message women and rarely get a response. Perhaps its the fact their message sucks, the guy isn't the woman's type or the woman isn't online checking her mail, but it can lead to a lot of men feeling like they are being ignored or rejected by women leading to the anger and bitterness.
Women more than ever have an incredible number of options. Even girls of average attraction can go online and get hundreds of messages. I don't think this makes them arrogant, but like supply & demand, it makes women more selective and pickier since they can't be dating every single man that messages them.