So I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months. We talk about everything and share amour views. One day I asked him when we have s child, what would he do if they were gay/lesbian etc. he claims he would disown them basically. I don't agree with his views on that at all. He's been super great to me, the SWEETEST man I've ever been with. He treats me like a queen but I'm afraid to if it gets to that point in our life. I couldn't disown my child and I couldn't be with a man that would do that. He grew up and a somewhat religious home and he's African while I wasn't raised in a religious home and I'm black but American.
Most Helpful Guy
Its a good thing that you guys dont agree in everything , and its pretty unlikely that he would do what he said, im black, im not a father , but its pretty common within our community that mindset of " my son can't be gay and if he is i will disown him", its his son, he won't do it, dont overthink it , you gonna risk a guy that treats you this well over a SLIM chance of something like this happening? Dounds like you are looking for an excuse to break up with him, just talk to him and explain him that , this is might never happen if you guys do educate your kids properly besides he will be a black kid/girl lmao this is even more rare to happen within our community, ask yourself how many black homosexual guys/girls you have met in your life? Do not stress about this.2
Most Helpful Girl
Yes, you have to. Because differing in views causes a lot of serious issues that will often resort in divorce. That was something you two should have asked before becoming official. If I was dating and looking for a marriage partner, those questions must come into play. The whole point in dating is process and elimination. If you don't agree with his terms and views, and won't compromise, end it. It's not just about how they treat you. But what they stand for and believe in. To be honest. I believe what he is saying is that the child would not be around him, and kicked out. Being kicked out is not disownment unless he said that he will disown the child. Regardless to what. What is his belief's? If he is not a Jew or Muslim, then as a Christian he is not religious. Believing in God is not a religion. It is viewed as a sin. And as a believer he has to stand by what is right according to God, or else he too will be judged for those choices. As long as he is not abusive or shown hatred towards the child, he's fine in his place. It doesn't make him a bad man, but you're just not right for each other. Also if he is from Africa, they have very intolerant views of the LGBTQA community and lifestyle.0