This guy I met online is really nice, affectionate and claims that he's not looking for a hookup. I like his personality, but he seems a bit clingy even though I've only met him once. He texts me all the time and is really sweet otherwise. One thing that's bugging me is the fact that he has a bit of a gay lisp or higher pitched voice. I'm not sure if it's natural because there were very few instances when I heard him talk like normal for a few seconds before he goes back to the more feminine sounding voice. He also likes likes one direction and other bands girls mostly listen to. I know I may sound shallow, but I don't want to end up falling for someone who's gay and get my heart broken. Do you think he might be gay?
Most Helpful Guy
Minus the musical choices, that guy sounds a lot like me... and yes, I've been asked throughout my life if in gay. Used to bug me, now I just laugh it off. 😂
I'm a very happy person, so I don't have that brooding subdued man-voice that some other guys have, and my voice is (on average) higher pitched with an upward inflection.
I'm a masculine guy otherwise, but some people like you can foolishly stereotype a guy like me, and miss out on a good thing out of you being rigid about "what a man is supposed to act like".
Has he flirted with you? Playfully touched you? Made any lewd comments at all?0
Most Helpful Girl
You can't tell if someone is gay solely based on their voice. You could always ask him if there's any girl he's interested in at the moment. But if he's not "out of the closet" yet he might lie. So there's really no bulletproof way to tell unless he actually comes out to you and tells you he's gay.
Maybe just try to keep your feelings in check regardless of his sexuality.1