I have never officially dated another girl but I have had a few "flings" with girls here and there. I haven't told my current boyfriend of 3 months about it because I don't want to freak him out. Should I tell him? Or not at all?
Most Helpful Guy
I think this needs to be handled fairly delicately. The main risk you run in telling your boyfriend - in my opinion - is that he may become convinced that he isn't able to satisfy you sexually now that you're interested in women. Of course you know him better than us, so do consider whether he's likely or not to fall into this trap of thinking.
If you have no intention of acting on your newfound desires I don't think there's a lot of point telling him about them. So if you'd rather have your boyfriend than liaisons with women, I think you should stick with that choice (though by all means continue to masturbate about women and whatnot - that's fine and healthy).
I think unless you have a specific reason to do so (i. e. wanting to actively seek a sexual relationship with a woman/engage in a threesome) it's best just to keep quiet about it.
If he ever asks you outright, tell him, but I just don't really think he needs to know the fact pressingly.
I think the common assumptions (at least ones I encountered when I identified as bisexual) are that you'll either not be satisfied sleeping with only a man, or actively want to involve a woman in your sex life.
Most Helpful Girl
I think you should. Honesty is important and he might think it's hot.0