I didn't realise until it was over. I reflected on how I felt after every time we met. Drained... was the only word I could find.
Anyone else experienced something similar?
Most Helpful Guy
Not a relationship, but I've most definitely dated people who were toxic. A few months ago I dated a girl that was very cute and had a lot in common with me. She wasn't perfect but definitely my type if that makes sense.
We had an amazing first date but for 3 weeks till our 2nd date, she was blowing hot and cold consistently and it messed me up. Then she revealed she just got out of a 5 year relationship a few weeks prior to seeing me. It scared me because I liked her and took it VERY slow because I was worried if she saw any slight interest, she'd leave. Shed text and communicate through social media but when I'd ask her out, she'd say maybe only to flake and never reschedule then after 3 weeks, she finally asks me out again. The 2nd date was great and she started showing more interest afterwards then act hot and cold. Last time I saw her, I found out she was playing me and it hurt like hell and she ditched me.
This was more of a headache than fun. Made me realize, no matter how much you like a person or how much you have in common, never overlook or ignore red flags.0
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Most Helpful Girl
yup. My previous relationship was the definition of toxic.
In the end, I felt drained, like a shell of myself. As terrible as that sounds, though, I'm glad that everything happened as it did nonetheless. I learned an incredible amount of things about myself, what I want in life/a partner, a much better way to navigate future relationships and/or issues that may arise while I'm still in them. Many lessons that I don't think I ever would have learned if not for my ex and what I experienced during that whole relationship, as well as in the aftermath of it.1