so my girlfriend is going in the military next year, I hear that the military can be very lonely and often people cheat on their significant others. Is this true? If so why and how can you prevent it?
Most Helpful Girl
Being a military spouse, partner, girlfriend or boyfriend can be really tough. I dated a guy in the military in the past. We were together for 2 years. I was lucky that he didn't have to go over seas. But he still got sent away for training and other things at times. One time he had to go away for training for 4 months. We talked on Skype and MSN and did what we could to stay connected. It didn't seem to hurt the relationship.
I remember when I was dating him, he would come home and tell me things about what his friends were going through. Some of them had been cheated on or were cheating. It's hard to be away from someone for so long and not get to see them.
I'm not saying cheating is justifiable. But it's fairly common. Military life is tough, it's not for everyone. Some people just can't deal with being away from their partner for so long.0
Most Helpful Guy
i want to break ur neck right now...
ok i will lay this out for u, since this is very clearly far beyond u since u are asking.
people in the military "cheat" because they are on opposite sides of the world for VERY long periods of time. 4-12 months of a year. some times back to back. getting married right before going in is also a no no because they change from bassic and again in trianning. i would hold off on the marriage till after then.
so anyway, the issue is that, most military are in good shape and marry other attractive people. aka normally sexual people. this also means that they are atracting others to them, and they have needs themselves. being away so long from ur loved one is hard. normally u send pictures or videos and u talk all the time. but it only tkaes something stupid like a bad storm back home where she is very scared and has to be comforted cause poor thing is scared to death... understandable, or she is acting like a total bitch for some reason when u are in a sweet country... time to explore ;). shit happens.
but ur all the time comment is not true. and u will find out how hard it is to be away from somone for 4-12 months soon enough. especially if u have a decent sex drive. its hard enough to hold on... it only takes one stupid event to be like fuck this bull shit0