I notice that women care more about a whether or not a man has a car, career, and if he is more settled or not. Men dont seem to care about that when it comes to choosing a female. They will date a female that has a low paying job, as long as she is attractive and they are compatible with each other. Why is this?
Most Helpful Guy
Men and women have very different desires and perspectives, and though women have VERY RECENTLY (starting about 50 years ago, so about 2.5 generations) made major changes to how they live their lives, the truth is that the "traditional" expectations about men has NOT changed - most women still look for men who are protectors, providers, and are "in charge" - even if they don't really realize it.
Similarly, men, though they've grown to adjust to women's changing roles in some ways, tend to still be attracted to women based on traditional values and roles: being a good wife and mother. Of course, this is harder and harder to find, which is why more and more men are going without relationships entirely.
Women care about a man's job and his ability to provide and protect because - until VERY VERY recently, most women went through (at least) periods of their lives (pregnancy and post-pregnancy) where they were vulnerable and relied on the protection and resources of a man - who were often the sole "breadwinners."
Men have *generally* never relied on women for resources (yes, exceptions have always existed), and to this day, men are expected to have a job/career and to provide for themselves (at the very least).
When I meet someone, one of the first 3 things they will ALWAYS ask me is "so, what do you do?" Women are much less likely to be asked this question, and rarely will it be so quickly into the conversation.
The point is: our attitudes are based on thousands of generations of ingrained, instinctual behavior, that our modern, wealthy, technological society has only very recently started to change. Instincts don't change anywhere close to as fast (studies show it takes about 1000 generations to make noticeable changes to ingrained instincts), so our values remain pretty close to "traditional" values (again, with some individual exceptions).1
Most Helpful Girl
Biological instincts mostly but it is also a lot of things.
I go to a federal school which is a school for smart children and poor not so smart kids, the rest are all in private schools. Meaning I'm weird since I'm middle class and not so smart but my biggest problem till now is well gold diggers and money shamers. There are those guys that want your money and the other's make you feel ashamed of your parents money. There are a few good ones but it's hard not to be jaded when you hear so many nasty things about you when your parents have more money than theirs... those experiences kind of add up and make you wish for someone who has more privilege than you do so that you have peace.1