I've gotten close to one of my guy friends for the past 3 years. We chat on fb everyday throughout the day and know of each other's life. I recently got out of a relationship and he's been there for me consoling me every day. Recently I noticed that he's been inviting me out more one on one and just grabbing something to eat or drink. There was also a time where I was talking to him about two super pretty girls that we know and I made a comment of "I wish I was pretty like them" and he responded back with "I think you're better than them". But he also always talk about girls he's interested in. I think I'm starting to develop feelings for him, but I'm not sure how he feels about me and I don't want to ruin our friendship. What would be the best way for me to figure out his feelings for me?
Most Helpful Guy
The way that I suggest protecting the friendship is to use your guys mutual friends to ask him in person. However if he is not ready to admit to liking you then he will lie. Otherwise make sure your ready for a relationship and for your friendship to go either way and while your out with him casually talk to him about it.
Honestly you do need to be ready for if it goes south or if it turns out ok.0
Most Helpful Girl
Simple. You ask him and not play games to see if he does. He will never know what or how you feel if you don't make that clear to him. All he's going to think is that he has a female friend with low self-esteem and needs his input to make you feel better/special. Don't be that kind of girl, or else he's not going to see your worth as a potential dating partner and not just a friend. You need to tell how you feel if you want him to know. At this point, if he is comfortable enough to talk about other girls in front of you, it means that he is not interested, nor is he looking at you as a potential girlfriend. You need to speak up. Otherwise, you have two choices:
1. Either learn to be his friend and support him, but let those feelings die.
2. Or be prepared to risk your friendship if he says no.
Guys and men overall need's the facts, not feelings unless they specifically ask you: "How do you FEEL about [this] and/or [that]?"1