there's this man who works in a shop near my house, i go in the shop regularly he always stares at me and one time he waited outside the shop for me and asked for my number, i dont even know why but i gave my number and one thing i know for sure is that he's older than 27, we started talking from then, he asked me to meet him one day and took me into town, he would make me walk behind him so people wouldn't know we are together, he was holding my hand one time and some police officers walked past and he immediately let go of my hand i found that a bit rude but didn't say anything, he took me round all the shops and made me buy things i refused obviously because i dont need no man to buy me things but he would get angry so i bought one thing, he then took me to his house and i was sitting on him and he was touching my boobs i felt so uncomfortable but i didn't know what to do, and we was just kissing but it was clear he wanted to do other things and asked me if i wanted to sleep in his bed but i said no, after that i went home and he ony texts me like once a day, he hardly even speaks to me making me think he just wanted to use me, im full of so much anger and i want to get him arrested, like i know he won't go jail but im sure it would be on his records and scar him for life, i need my revenge he has made me depressed he has emotionally changed me, ill do anything i have to make him rot, so can someone please help me.
he's 27 and im 16, can he get arrested?
What Guys Said 24
' think before you do...'
In regards to this situation, in which you have played a large part in happening2
I don't think you have anything concrete here that would stand in court. Also keep in mind that there is a cost involved with taking someone to court... and i doubt you'll be paying that. So i'd just drop it, and in the future, avoid men that are that much older than you... at least at your age. its kinda gross that a guy that age would feel the need to pursue a girl as mentally underdeveloped as yourself0
ı dont think so0
which country are you in? you need to be careful nevertheless even if you're above the age of consent.0
Revenge is wrong. Just calm down and lose his number. Find someone a little closer to your own age3
what did you expect? The only reason a man so much older than you would do stuff like this is to get in your pants. But at 16 you should know better than to mess around with a 27 y/o0
depends on where you live xD in germany he can´t, as long as you consent to everything.0
Well that depends on the age of consent law in your state0
Yeah totally. That's kinda weird.0
Ofcourse you can... Go to the police0
Probably. I hope he does.0
if you go to police he will be behind those rods1
Yes and he should be0
Messsage me pls0
if u ruin his life like that then he'll prolly come back and kill u later ;) that's what i would do ;)3
weird but he didn't do nothing to you. If you ruin his life I hope bad karma follows you after3
It doesn't sound like he did anything to warrant getting arrested.
You shouldn't be so vindictive. You want to "scar him for life" for making you feel depressed. That is not healthy thinking.
Just chalk it up as a learning experience. He won't be the last guy that will try to use you. Figure out how to navigate that.
In some places age of consent is 16, but if you live in America he's better wait until you're 18 if he doesn't want to get into trouble1
What Girls Said 7
You can't blame him for something you allowed an initiated:
1. Nobody told you to get his number.
2. Nobody told you to go where he goes.
3. Nobody told you to go to his house... ALONE.
4. Nobody told you to be on top of him, letting him touch you sexually, or start kissing.
5. He was grooming you for sex and to rape you. This is why you should not be dating or messing around with a 27-year-old. And yes, he can still get arrested. Because he should not be with a minor sexually or dating you.
You got used because you ALLOWED IT. No matter how much you was stricken with fear and feel immobilized, you could have just not go to his home. And just leave him alone, block him, etc. Because at the end of the day, you can get him arrested. But now your parents will be involved and you're going to be in real serious trouble. And this can or may go to trial if convicted. He at least let you go. He did not force you to have sex. If you were that uncomfortable, you should have opened your mouth. He didn't do anything to you that you didn't already want him to do. At least what your body wanted to do.
Please stop. Because its girls like you who doesn't own up to fault is why guys are no longer trusting women for anything. Silence only makes it worse. Also, he is no longer really speaking to you because it's clear what your thinking. And he doesn't want to get arrested. However as long as he did not have sex with you, he's less likely to be pressed with serious charges.2
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What state do you live in if you don't mind me asking? If you don't feel comfortable then make sure that he knows that. He technically hasn't done anything wrong so he wouldn't even get in trouble. I get that you're hurt but it's wrong of you to try to get him in trouble and arrested for that. You gave consent to everything. There's going to be so many other guys your age and older that will try and use you for sex. And what are you going to do? Make them all rot in jail?3
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I don't know if you have enough evidence here to get him arrested. You should not have given your number in the first place, but what he did by pursuing you is wrong, especially if he knew your age. Glad it did not go further than what it did, but not sure you have enough to back up your case.1
What he did was wrong but come on, you weren't exactly in the right either. Don't just lure him in, string him along, and then try to get him in jail. If you're that uncomfortable (which you should be) then text him that it is/feels wrong and that you don't wanna talk anymore or go out to places.0
Just take this experience as a lesson learn don't mess with older guys what did u think this guy wanted to do with u talk about high school stuff u have nothing in common find u a nice guy your age & enjoy puppy love I was you when I was 16 sleeping with older guys letting them take advantage of me because I was hot & wanted to be grown now I wish I just would've dated guys my age had a high school sweet heart & gotten married to him leave older guys where they are at this guy clearly has a problem & is a pervert u have to ask yourself what would a grown ass man want from a child? Nothing but sex I'm sorry u don't have to play get back just focus on school find a hobby GRADUATE go to college those boys will be beating down your door sooner or later leave those man who can't handle real women so they prey on young insecure girls like u ALONE0
If the age of consent where you live is 16, he won't get in any trouble. Even if it's not, you weren't forced to give him your number or go to his house, it was your choice.
He asked you if you wanted to sleep in his bed, you said no, he didn't rape you.
I understand that he's a creep and he probably did just think you were attractive and wanted to have sex with you, but when it comes down to it, this world is full of creeps and it's down to you to be more cautious and not just carelessly go to a man's house that you barely know.
I get that you're annoyed because he's a user, but honestly it's best if you just drop it and stop all contact with him. If you try and cause trouble for him I really doubt the police will be able to do anything, because no crime was commited, and you may be seen as a naive idiot by people around you because you went along with it all in the first place.0
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