A week ago my girlfriend had stayed over at my house and her phone was lighting up with messages. When i went to put the phone on silent i noticed that the messages were to her best friend in which my girlfriend's ex was the subject of conversation. Apparently he was starting to see someone else and the message that threw me off was "I miss him like crazy". I confronted her and she explained that it was because of the idea that I wasn't happy with her the days leading up to that conversation with her friend. I was busy/frustrated with work at the time, nothing against her but she took it personal. She also mentioned she missed the mutual friends they shared while together. Now she's fighting for us to stay together and claims she has no feelings for her ex. Thoughts?
Should I give her a chance or dump her?
What Girls Said 9
She misses him and she probably wish to get over him. If you can accept that, then give her a chance.2
She is not stable emotionally. If u don't give her attention because of work or anything. Then she wants to fill that whole by going back to her ex. A relationship should be based by: communication, loyalty, faithfulness, trust, and intimacy (if active or waiting for marriage). And by her even saying she miss her ex, she already tapping on having no faith in the relationship.
Like is call an "ex" for a reason. One can't make a step backwards and then expect to go forward.0
Did she even try to tell you she was sad with your actions lately or that she felt that you weren't happy with her. She has to communicate, not just take actions that could lead to pushing you farther apart, but actions to try to bring you closer together.0
Move on from it. But be wary0
Sometimes we miss people, doesn't mean we want them back or that we aren't 100% happy right now. You just miss what was. He's her ex for a reason, you're her man for a reason.0
I'd give her a chance.0
Red flag. Disrespectful. She is lying :/0
What Guys Said 4
Do what feels right to you. I would leave. Exes shouldn't be friends.1
Of course she has feelings for her exes. Don't you have feelings for your exes? The question is how strong YOUR relationship is. If you want the relationship to last, you and she need to make it strong.1
I'd dump her. She's obviously fucking needy and not worth the headache if she can't understand that you're busy with work. It only took her a few days to start considering other options. What about when work gets busier and you don't have all the time in the world for her? What happens when you get into an argument after that? How long do you think it would take for her to be bent over her ex's kitchen table?0
Yeah. Your her backup. Word of advice. If you got didn't get her young, chances are she is settling for you.1
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