I'm 22 and never had a girlfriend. Always get over the top rejections or bad situations. Examples are
Middle School: Girl i asked out made rumors about me and showed the whole school a letter I wrote.
High School: Girl I asked out had her brother fight me.
Girl I asked out rejected me for a girl (she wasn't lez)
Girl I liked who was like my bff just stopped talking to me
Girl Who I asked out had a mom who worked for the school got me suspended on bs charges and bragged about it on twitter
In college all 4 girls gave me there #'s and went on dates but turned out to be married with kids.
So after so long my heart is stone, Like i don't feel anything anymore except sometimes lonleyless. Since then though i've focused on myself. Currently working on a novel, Do poetry, Got accepted to do sports articles on bleacher report, Working on my painting, Piano and Guitar playing. recently got supervisor position, and doing better in school. Things are great but at night and when I do get accomplishments I feel lonley still. I've also become prideful like when women come around I just dont take a chance and immediately distances myself, and I used to be "too nice". Now everyone says im "to blunt" and became a asshole. Im either one or the other, Can't balance it and recently learning to be a loner. I've accepted i'll probably going to be single forever. What Can i do to combat the lonleyness? Why since the day i've became emotionaless and not cared about anyone but myself are things better? And is there still a chance to find someone? (PLEASE No Everyone finds someone eventually in time answers, i've met 50 year olds who have never had a relationship so your wrong)
Most Helpful Girl
Don't ever give up on love. You likely have many great qualities and there's just not been a girl to recognize them yet. You still have a chance.0
Most Helpful Guy
My experience in this kind of scenario is that you tend to go from one extreme to the other before eventually finding a balance nearer the middle. How long it takes you to get back to the middle is the question.
Neither extreme end of the emotional scale is healthy in the long term. If you are too emotionally open and too self deprecating then you will get crapped on and hurt repeatedly. When this happens you naturally go to the opposite extreme, you build a huge wall around you and nobody gets in. You are protected from pain but you are missing out on life. You don't let anybody in and you lose compassion and so you are lonely.
The ideal position is in the middle, being neither too open and selfless or too selfish and cold. Part of that, in my opinion, is in accepting that hurt is normal and manageable and that being cold is self defeating.
When you are confident enough to be honest about what you want and to deliver your message in an engaging style, yet strong enough not to be taken advantage of, then you are likely to see better results. I keep on saying that strength is not about never being weak, it is about being aware that you can be weak and being at peace with that. When you know your weaknesses they can't surprise you.0