Dating for the most part is and has always been at the mercy of women. As a man you can try to do a lot of things to impress her, but at the end of the day, its up to her whether she dates you or not. I don't mind, as it creates a challenge and I can see where I can improve. However my issue is with women who act dismayed and offended if you say you flirt with multiple women at once. Most women I've known have HUNDREDS of men in their contacts, DM's and on social media who they flirt with constantly. Once a pontential guy is gone, she moves on to the next bachelor on 2 seconds. Heck sometimes she'll flirt while she's still dating someone. And this is considered normal. I don't condone cheating. And I believe in being faithful. However, some men need to test things out to see where personalities click. Wasting eachother's time hurts both parties. If somethings not going to work out, waiting for the inevitable doom of rejection is stupid. If I have a few options (who are people I enjoy spending time with, sex out of the equation) then I dont see the big deal.
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I guess it really depends on what you mean by dating. If your not in a relationship with anyone then you are free to see whomever. I'll probably get hate on this post. But how else are you supposed to meet people? You don't instantly just start seeing each other exclusively. So there is a period of time where you are just meeting up with people to see what they are like.
I usually just meet guys for coffee, take a walk and talk to them to get to know them. No sex involved. But that's my preference. Sometimes after talking it becomes apparent that you both are just not compatible on key things. Which is fine, no harm done.
Honestly though, if you are single, then it's no one's business who you flirt with.
So I don't know why it is a big deal. Once you start to develop feelings for a person and things start to get more serious, have the conversation about where you want things to go. If you both decide you want a relationship, then you stop talking to other people.
in my opinion a player is a guy who has actual relationships with multiple women, though the women have no clue because he lies about it. He tells each woman that she's the only one and actually makes her believe that. When he says he's working over time, he's really chilling at Girlfriend #2's house. When he's on vacation with his family he's really in Mexico with girlfriend #3. THAT to me is a player.0