why do successful men date girls who are pretty but unsuccessful when there are so many girls out there who are pretty, smart and have good jobs?
if you were in the top 5% of successful guys, wouldn't you date someone equally as successful?
SIMILARITY AND COMPANIONSHIP ARE THE CURRENCY OF ATTRACTION, FOR BETTER OR WORSE. HOT PEOPLE WILL DATE HOT PEOPLE. RICH PEOPLE WILL DATE RICH PEOPLE. INTELLIGENT PEOPLE WILL DATE INTELLIGENT PEOPLE.
just bc yr pretty means little unless yr dating down. beauty is rare, sure, but in a bubble of hot people yr one of many. they probably never been w one, that's y they forgo everything for looks.
Most Helpful Guy
Simply, men and women have different perspectives and desires, so we value different things (and generally, we value things that we don't already have or can't get easily ourselves).
Women value "success" and "security", but men value attractiveness and nurturing.
How many women have ever said "I really attracted to nurturing men?" NO WOMAN EVER. Why? Because YOU YOURSELF are nurturing, so you don't need more of that - you need things that you don't already have. Men are the same way - we're expected to get a job and provide for ourselves and our families - yes, even in today's frequently dual-income world. Thus, we don't worry so much about HER success - we want HER for qualities we DON'T already have.
But since the rise of feminism, women have been rejecting traditional female gender roles and want to do what men do. That's fine - and you certainly can do that if you like - but it also means that many of you have stopped being many of the things that men valued in women: good nurtures, good mothers, etc., and have traded those things for successful careers. And, again, that's fine - but men don't WANT that and so they don't really value or seek it (just like women don't seek men to be nurturers, and don't value that trait in men).
So, what is left in women that men still value? Looks and sex, mostly. Yes, there are exceptions, but this is largely the truth, and if you look at how modern society behaves, you can see the truth of what I just wrote in how people (BOTH genders) act and think today.
Note: I'm not speaking for myself here, but for society in general. I am often an exception to these rules, but it doesn't mean I don't know they exist and how much they effect modern society.5
Most Helpful Girl
Typically speaking, men do not care much about the girl's intelligence level. They simply want someone who is young and attractive enough for them. They also consider it a huge plus to feel admired by their partner, that's why they usually choose women "below their level" as you put it.0