No disrespect to those kind of guys. but i believe only uneducated/unwise men would claim such.
No girl should be named "boring" for such reasons. all we need is an understanding. my girlfriend is a quiet type of girl and we are way too fine. being quiet is not a flaw. and quiet girls has no issue. this is how they are and this is simply a trait.
1. Individual behaviors 2. Cultures and practices 3. Lack of experience, lack of communication skills and anxiety.
-1. People are different! our desires as humans goes different psychologically. some people do not talk till they feel comfortable. some people do not talk until they have something promising and accountable to express. some people do not talk because they have a hard time recognizing where and when is the suit moment, what is the suit word to say. some people do not talk because of the fear of being judged, mocked or appear negative or the anxiety of being attacked for their opinions.
-2. Cultures are different. my girlfriend is Finnish, she is exactly a quiet type of girl. i have studied. Finland's culture specifically and usually goes to quiet women. people barely communicate warmly in their social life. Finnish women prefer little bit physical distance and does not have this habit to communicate and talk constantly. or the Russians. Russian women do not contact with an outsider. she do not communicate openly and warmly. after she approved you, yet a Russian woman has a hard time accepting romance in the public as well as constant communication (speaking). so we need to be aware of the cultures and one's practices as well before labeling them.
-3. Many people (not necessarily girls) find this issue of lack of experience! for instance, not knowing what to say when going to a date! or lack of communication skills! not everyone has the charisma in expressing/speaking and playing with words. stress and anxiety is a natural form of feeling belong to every human! once it catch us we lose words and thoughts! it's all natural and we need to understand our opposite while communicating.
I wouldn't mind dating a quiet girl, just as long as we can communicate with each other a deeper level than just small talk. Guys that just automatically assume a shy girl is boring don't know how to talk to quiet girls, you just have to find that common ground with her and get her to express her self.
Personal preference. Whenever someone says "guys / girls don't like / like this" It's not completely true, they might be referring to "average" which you never meet, you only meet individuals and there is always someone who prefers you as you are as long as you are happy with yourself.
Personally I prefer introverted girl, but not shy (at first it's okay), but I would like to have meaningful conversations one on one, since I like to talk when there is something I'm passionate about and I would like to hear about her too. So if she's quiet just because she doesn't prefer constant meaningless "small talk" but likes "big talk", then it's perfect.
I don't think I would label a quiet girl as boring or having nothing to say but I might assume that she wasn't interested and I might also find conversation with her very hard work.
Think about a game of tennis where you hit the ball over the net and there is no opponent on the other side. The ball goes dead. You hit another ball, dead. Another, dead. Nothing is coming back to you so you go home and find someone who will actually return the ball. That's a pretty good analogy for this situation. Conversation allows people to build a rapport which can then turn into a relationship.
I can understand that some people will have social anxieties and others will just be the more mean and moody type but those are things to be worked on if you want to have relationships. Some people will put more effort into drawing you out of your shell than others will.
Only players, and jerks would think that.
Quiet shy girls who talk to you when you do meet them are hot. They are genuine.
Just be who you are and own it.
Good guys prefer genuine girls who might be shy but talk to them a lot and are not attention seekers.
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They are usually hard to tell from shy girls but once you get the quite girl in a safe place and with her friends she will be just as talkative as the rest of the girls.
They are normally cute or pretty.
basically 90% of the girls in my class.
they're boring.
Well since I'm a quiet guy, dating a quiet girl would be great!!! I love silence, if I could find a girl that's okay with us being around each other but not talking, that would be fun for me.
As long as it doesn't mean she barely talks and we'll have trouble having a real conversation, I don't care.
As long as she has some social IQ and isn't awkward then I'm cool with it. Quiet can create an aura of sexy mystery when done right.
We assume they aren't interested. If they are its not worth the risk of looking like a twat for someone who doesn't show the same interest you do to them.
If a guy is interested in you, he will give you the comfort of been heard even if you are quiet.
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