My girlfriend wants to hang out with her ex I said no and her friends are calling me controlling because of this, I mean wtf, what do I do, do I get over it?

[Anonymous]

To keep it short and simple, my girlfriend wants to hang out with her ex she is not the first girlfriend of mine to do this, all of my exes did this and it ended up with them cheating and don't ask me how but I always end up as the bad guy or this controlling bully, this time however I said no to my current girlfriend and so far it is not going well, her friends are are calling me controlling and a jerk and now my girlfriend is telling me why I'm controlling her, seriously, I'm controlling yet you want to go back to your thug ex who you told me abused you and is a criminal who's been arrested, really, and I'm the bad guy, does anyone have any advice for me I feel like just giving up on dating and women, no matter what race religion type of girl, if it isn't baby daddy's, or exes, or baggage, then its causing drama, any help?

[btbc92]

Listen, I know that this is hard. but if she won't respect your terms for the relationship then end it. And don't go back to her for anything. Nothing. Take your advice and walk. That is all you have to do. It's not you being controlling. Your not controlling her. And she has friends that have the audacity to tell her what to think, say and do. Apparently she can't think for herself. And it sounds like her friends never liked you to begin with and is probably leading her to cheat on you anyway. Tell her goodbye then. You can't tell her what to do because she is not your wife, yes. But the keyword is respect. And her actions show another story.

[lovydoey]

Well put the relationship on the line. Does she know of ur past and why u act the way u do? Because if she does, then she has to be considerate of ur emotions and reasoning. If she still chooses her ex, then leave her. And I don't know why u keep choosing girls like that. Maybe is something unconscious or maybe u date them when they just broke up with their ex and have the "I miss my ex" feelings. Or are the girls that are desperate for male attention that can't handle being alone and independent. Cuz sometimes they just enter a relationship only so they are not alone

[Izumiblu]

Personally, i think its a reasonable thing to expect. A little contact is fine, but hanging out and beig friends just isn't necessary. Especially given the things that happened with her ex. Ignore the "controlling" comments and talk about the kind of judgment a person needs to demonstrate as an adult. If she doesn't get it, then give her the freedom she deserves... to go hang out with her abusive ex con ex boyfriend.

[GraveTruth]

AHAHA, they are calling you controlling because they are her friends.

I don't think you and your girl are too close. Anyone in a serious relationship would automatically not want to do that.

[Jan1ssary_]

U are right about this shit.. I'd make big problems if she wanted to hang out with her ex or meet.

[tzdc21]

This is normally what happens when guys have standards. It's called "controlling." You watch, if the roles were reversed and you wanted to hang with an ex and she said no, would her friends be calling her controlling? Nope. In fact they would be backing her decision. You are NOT controlling for having standards for her to live up to, just like how she has standards for you to live up to.

[lostgirl_searching]

Just dump her because honestly she's stupid for thinking you are controlling her and is also dumb enough to listen to her dumb friends. An ex is an ex for a reason and if you are not single you shouldn't be seeing your ex.
But don't give up on women though, because you are dating a immature girl that thinks saging no to see an ex is controlling and treats you like you are the bad guy.

[Anonymous]

I'm totally on your side on this just tell her that you don't want her to do it but if her ex is that important to her she should go meet him and question if not he should be her boyfriend and then just walk out the door and give her time to think about it

[ClothingOptional]

An ex is an ex for a reason. She's still hung up on him or she wouldn't desire to see him. When you end it with someone and you have no kids with them, it should be over. Keeping what I call "clinglers" is insecure and screams of being hung up.

[Toad-1]

You aren't being controlling I would be very concerned too