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I think you're prettier, and that maybe the problem (you two almost look like twins) but your pics are prettier. I think that guys are either intimidated or just automatically think you're taken. If it's hard for you to get to know strangers and you look that pretty, you could come off as stuck up, it's just the common perception, and it may even add to the reality of it (if you get what I'm saying). Practice talking to strange guys (with or without your friend), and you'll get used to being more friendly around strangers. Being more open and more talkative makes you seem less intimidating because it shows that you're friendly. You can easily start by introducing yourself when you meet someone new, and if the guy isn't intimidated, he'll start talking to you. Good luck
You're more attractive, therefore, more likely to shut down any advance by a guy who's not an A&F model. Also, if you're less outgoing, then that gives off the impression that you're more stuck up. Guys approach your friend because she's the "safer" option.
No I'm a pretty nice person i wouldn't do that and I am less outgoing but how would they know if they haven't talked to either of us?
You are not uglier. I think you both are pretty, you (in my opinion) even more attractive, but it's probably because you think about things too much? It could be one of the reasons.
Try to be the one who initiates asking for a date once in a while. If the guy is normal, he will politely accept or decline. Good luck! :)
You do really look alike, lol. But you're prettier in my opinion. You just have to remember that not all guys hit on girls for what they look like. They could think that your friend is easier to hook up with.
Appearance wise, your both beautiful. Personality, guys tend to gravitate towards the more outgoing because its less work to have fun. You may be just as fun as her but she is outgoing from the getgo.
Thank you! But I don't know how you can tell if someone's outgoing before even approaching them.
Because personality and behaviour have a huge impact on attractiveness, not just looks. Obviously.
I know that but when it comes to approaching someone it's usually based on if they like your looks or if you have an interesting style because they don't know your personality.
No, it's really not. People tend to think that but what actually attracts us to someone is all the subconscious information we're processing about the. Body-language, voice, the language they use, their scent/smell, how they are interacting with other people and how other people are responding to them, all influence our level of attraction to someone. Physical attributes and clothing are just two small factors that influence attraction slightly. Attraction isn't a calculated, conscious decision, it's naturally there or it isn't, and there are ways to increase the likelihood of attracting someone.
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Her smile and eyes immediately say she is a fun chatty people person. Yours don't quite give off the same vibe. You are prettier but she's easier to read and on a night out guys want to have to try as little as possible.
What vibe do my smile and eyes give off?
You appear a little more distant and reserved. Obviously that is a lot to read from two pictures but how you describe your scenarios appears to match up. Good thing for you is you ARE attractive so if you do start making it a bit more obvious when you are interested in someone then you aren't going to be getting turned down for your looks in my opinion.
tbh, you're better looking than her. Where she succeeds is the fact that she's simply more approachable. Your shyness can be interpreted by a lot of guys as disinterest. It's something you'll have to work on
I'm naturally a shy person I have tried to be more outgoing but it's never natural
I understand. Perhaps you're over thinking it too much. Being natural isn't something you turn on or off. It just is. The issue may be that you're afraid of the judgement of others... that your natural self might be rejected by the people you open up to.
You are prettier than her. You say she is outgoing but you are shy and reserved. The problem may have to do with the difference in body language. Her body language may seem more open while yours may seem more closed. Plus, the guys might be intimidated by you because you look better.
you are prettier. guys see your friend as an easier target. they are more intimidated by you because you are sexy as hell, and more reserved. but mainly because your sexy as hell
I'm not mean I just don't smile as much but I still do it sometimes so I don't think I'm intimidating
To me, you are more beautiful than your friend. I think there are 2 problems :
1. Guys hesitate to approach you, because you're beautiful and guys are scared of refusal.
2. Your shyness.
How would they know I'm shy if they don't talk to me though?
That's my point nr 1. They are scared.
About your shyness, sometimes even without talking to someone is possible to realise they're being shy. Just because of body language.
I wouldn't bother hitting on either of you, I don't even talk to girls or even look at them anymore, I just keep my eyes on the ground and shuffle past, giving them a wide berth.
your friend is a little less attractive but looks warmer and funner. You look a little better but look cold and materialistic.
Just my first impression from those photos.
I'm smiling in those pictures
You're better looking than her. Lots of men are stupid enough to be intimidated and not approach. I personaly approach if i like a woman, even if i'm scared out of my mind i go for what i want.
I personally think you're prettier, it comes down to confidence
Your friend looks like she'll give up sex easier lol
Thats rude.
cause you seem harder to get and no one wants to put in effort
I can't help that I'm quiet but I don't know how the guys would be able to tell which one of us is harder to get.
Your very pretty but try going out alone to meet a guy.
I do do that. And I still don't have as much success as the typical girl.
You are way cuter than your friend. I think its due to you being reserved and her being outgoing.
Obviously not if she is approached a lot more than me m. She's also really popular so I think she's a lot prettier than me.
Well beauty is subjective. I have to disagree i think you look better than her. Anyway it makes sense she is more popular than you because she's more outgoing. Im sure that if you are outgoing as well that youd be getting guys to come after you as well.
I think it's because she looks more approachable. You might just be giving off an intimidating vibe
I don't smile as much as she does but I don't know if that makes me intimidating.
ur more likely to be approached when you're alone... it's the same with all women
Even when I'm alone I don't have as much success as when she or my other friends are alone ugh.
body language most likely. you may be sending the wrong signals
She's outgoing, so she probably flirts first.
Not really. Unless you count smiling a lot flirting but she doesn't smile towards them.
Then... I don't know.
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