My best friend's crush asked me out. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

My best friend likes a guy who asked me out recently. I have always liked him but never pursued it because my friend likes him ans wants marry him. He says he is really serious about me but I'm confused whether to say yes to him or not.

[OlderAndWiser]

1. You best friend is living in fantasy land. She wants to marry a guy who she has never dated? Has she ever dated anyone?

2. He says he is "really serious" about you but you have never dated him. Most likely, he is only very serious about getting you naked.

3. How will your friend respond if she finds out that you have gone out with "her future husband?" Totally devastated? Which is more important, your friendship or going out with a guy who probably just wants to have sex?

4. Some people may say to ask her first. That is bad advice. She will be almost as hurt just by you asking. If she says "okay" because she is trying to be a good friend, she won't REALLY be okay with the idea and you will have violated your friend's trust.

Don't do it!

[Asker]

But there might be a chance that he is actually genuine. If thats the case then i might be losing out on something really special, right?

[OlderAndWiser]

It is much more likely that you are about to lose a friend, and after he has discarded you and gone on to his next victim, you will have lost some respect for yourself.

[Asker]

Ya. I don't want to lose my friend. So you think i should just forget about the whole thing and not mention it to my friend?

[OlderAndWiser]

Exactly!

[DanoM1]

If you like him, f*ck your friend. "Oh but we're BFF and I don't want it to end..." you might have the love of your life in front of you as well, and friends (as lovers) come and go. I know it by experience. Take the chance 👍🏼

[Asker]

Ya, i think I'm just going to tell her. I do really like him. Thanks.😊

[Agirlwithalemon]

I would say no because your friend will be really upset, but then again on the other hand, it's only a crush. He doesn't like her and they're not committed to one another, but don't do anything behind her back. You have to ask yourself if you want this relationship with this guy or your best friend because chances are she will be PISSED. When my sister and I were younger there was this boy that we both liked, he found out that I liked him so he started liking me. My sister was very upset. She threw a bey blade at my nose. Yes, I sort of deserved it but then again, it was a crush and we were really young.

[Asker]

Thanks. I think I'm going to tell her about it. Don't want her throwing bey blades at me.

[Agirlwithalemon]

LOL! Hopefully she won't. I hope everything works out. It would be great to get an update. :D

[Asker]

I will. Thanks😊

[RJGraveyTrain]

You have to decide ultimately what is more important to you: your friendship, or being with that guy.

There is no perfect way to go about this without wronging someone.

[JulieXO]

If you like him and he likes you, I don't see a reason not to try it. I suggest telling your friend; shew ill probably be okay with it :)

[Tony1974]

What a choice. Do you see a possible future with him? Will it be worth it? You will probably lose your bestie IF you get with her crush. She will be devastated at such a betrayal of trust. IF you think you'd like to do this I would suggest you talk it over with your friend and tell her your POV. Ask her for her advice... and blessing. If it helps, tell her to ask him out if she's totally into him. If he says no then you should be free to date him if/when he asks again.

[Battooot]

talk with your BEST FRIEND first. This could lose you your friendship