Sometimes people call a passionate kiss "making out" and sometimes getting fingered to orgasm is called "making out" so whether it is okay depends a bit on how far you went.
The problem with doing anything more than kissing, hugging, and holding hands on a first date is that many guys have an expectations that the second date will go further, the third date even further, etc.
For the second date, try to arrange to meet him him somewhere and stay in public for the entire date. The danger is that he will think that you initially were hot to trot but have now changed your mind about him, so he may think that he is wasting his time. At some time on the second date, whisper in his ear (but only if this is true, of course), "You really turn me on! I don't want this to go too fast because I want more than just a roll in the hay, but. . . when we finally get there, you're gonna be glad you waited!"
Nah that's totally fine and as for dealing with no sex, if he tries making a move on you, just place hand on him and tell him it's a bit too soon for you for that. He should get the idea.
YAS OMG! I did on my first date and it was also my first kiss, as long as both parties were happy and comfortable there's no issue, dont let hatters bring you down by the way, they are just jealous. in fact, just for future reference, dont let anyone judge your relationship, make sure you are comfortable and him because thats all that matters. the second date could led to sex but if u hold back and stick to making out, it won't... just dont let him pull any "moves" on you and watch were he places his hands. It must be hard to put it off, well I find it hard especially when im in the moment and making out with my boyfriend of whom is soooo affectionate, just let him know your boundaries and hopefully he will work around them :) I know im like 12 years younger than you, giving you advice, you may ignore it, thinking im too young and inexperienced, but please consider it :)
Make your intentions CLEAR from the get go before the 2nd date. I say that you two were going way too fast with making out. Hot and heavy leads to sex. Set your boundaries and stick to em. That is how you get respected. Because if this is not what YOU want and need, don't allow that line to be crossed. It doesn't matter what we believe what do YOU believe? If it's to much, say something. Don't let him assume.
Absolutely not too much!
To avoid having sex too soon, stay away from bar dates (alcohol really lowers your decision making capabilities lol) and make it clear to him that you want to wait a bit! There's no harm in mentioning that you want to hold off on being intimate. it doesn't have to be a huge convo. Just make sure to make some mention of waiting so you're not leading him on.
Thank you. My other issue is that I am a single mother, so dates often have to include the guy coming to my house (since I can't leave!) So, I feel that in itself gives the feeling that sex will be happening. Snuggling/making out etc at home = harder to avoid it leading to something else...
Yes, that does make it more difficult! But I think that's all the reason more to have a (quick!) convo. Just mention how you like him and think you've got a great thing going so far. Say you're good with foreplay but want to hold off on sex both to build up anticipation and get to know each other better in the romantic sense. I did this with my current boyfriend (we were friends first) and it was successful. We didn't get FULLY intimate until date 6 or 7. But I let him know outright that i wanted it that way! He was totally willing to oblige and it made the moment when we finally hooked up so much more exciting 😍
I'm all about the build up too lol
If you had a previous connection I see no issue with it. Makeout to your heart's content my friend.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!I think it's OK! Just be upfront or don't go back to his place after a date lol.
I wouldn't do it, but since you two were already friend's and decided to date sure why not.
If it goes well , why not.
No - making out is good. If you are not ready for sex by date 2 which I agree is too soon... wait at least 5 then just say you are not ready to go there yet if he pushes.
Yes, it's ok.
About the no sex on the second date, just don't get sexual. If you make out, then ended with that. If he invites you home or wants to go to yours, just tell him you're not ready for that.
Um, if you are 31, you like each other and the calendar cooperates, have sex on the first date.
Make a decision: Are you willing to have sex with him or not. If not, or in doubt, then stop wasting his time.
It's alright but make sure he knows that you're not rushing
Sex on the first date is okay if you feel the time is right.
Are you avoiding it on the second date because you aren't that into him yet, or because you have this idea that you shouldn't give it away too soon?
you're 31? lol of course its okay.
People these days with all their set "rules" on when to do this and that fml..
Listen, is there a solid/harmful barrier between you two or a law that says you can't? No? Then leech off each other's mouths all you want!
Nope. Not at all
I was answering the "was this too much?", by the way
are you joking? lol
@Puppylove94 check again ha
Am I suppose to have sex on the second date? Explains why I never get a third date.
Not on the first date
I will call it fast n furious ;)
But since u both know each other it's kinda OK. Lol next time ask him I m not ready for sex yet. Lol
you're 30+ years old, you should know if it's too much, trust yourself. As far as avoiding sex, just be honest with the guy, he may actually like you more for it.
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