if you already know him/feel comfortable with him picking you up and if he wants/asks then yes. It promotes chivalry. If you don't know one another that well/not quite friends even yet, I'd say no because it's healthy to maintain privacy and a certain distance at first to keep him chasing you. In your case... being 18... and him being 24... Id DEFINITELY meet him somewhere... you don't want to be in a position being with a relatively new guy, being inexperienced, and 'needing a ride home.' When I was in high school/just out of high school I let guys drive and they would always force themselves on me in one way shape or form. They would drive around an extra ton after the date just kind of waiting for an opportunity to make a move. You don't want to be in that situation, and you don't want him having that much control yet.
Traditionally, guys should pick you up at your house for a date.
Nowadays, with internet dating and stalking, I only will meet a guy at the movie or restaurant.
For you being 18yo and him 24yo, I would have him pick you up at home, but meet your parents. As much as we hate it, moms and dads DO have a lot of experience and in the end, I admit both mine were right about guys I dated.
If you trust this guy, have him pick you up. If you are not sure about him, meet him at the restaurant. He can always take you home afterwards.
And if you hit it off, on the way home, it is a good time to see how he kisses and makes out.
" I'm not sure how this is supposed to work..." It's however way you decide to date and want to date. It's not up to us to make that decision for you. However, I would advise against him picking you up. NEVER on a first date with somebody you don't even know. You meet him at a public place where you can be seen by people and go on a none expensive date. It can be very dangerous. And make sure you tell people where you are going and with whom.
No! Drive there or uber/lift. If you don't like the guy, you can leave. I heard about a girl in my school who got picked up by a guy in our grade at the time. He wanted her to give him oral or he wasn't dropping her off. These days I'd rather be safe. Even after I get to know him. You're not coming in or near my house unless I say so. Also let him drive away first. Make a call in your car or something
Well, that's not always the case. One of the reasons I simply quit asking long ago is I never bothered getting a car (had a horse and that's been good enough, after it died I happened to be in a city and have simply walked everywhere). Kinda inconvenient when she expects to be picked up, it would have to be in a cab. Don't believe the dumb shit you see in romance movies or read in Danielle Steele novels. Those are not rule books etched in stone. What if he turns out to be a jerk? Ride home with said jerk and hope he doesn't strand you in the middle of nowhere? Or demand a blowjob for a ride home (saw more than one guy here bragging about doing that in a question asking if other guys have done it)? This is why most meet somewhere these days, not every date turns out like we hope.
Welcome to the world your feminist sisters built for you. Equality is a bitch. Mine is a generation rife with rage about being disillusioned with the lies about how we were told things are. Yours is a generation with men born without any illusions as to how they are ACTUALLY valued by women and society, which is to say only for what they can provide, and then not very bloody much.
Everything you've heard about how your grandmother may have experienced dating was dead before you were even born.
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i think it all depends on the people and the situation. If you live out side of a city and do not drive and someone asks to you take you out then i would say yes, he should pick you up.
But if you do drive or live in a city with public transportation then i would say its better to meet there. Most likey you will get a ride home, unless your date goes bad or you are going too far out of his way.
I am a terrible dater myself but i don't think there is or should be a default rule. Its better to just discuss or mention it before the date. It would also depend on the couple. If one of the two has a car its obviously a logical choise for that person to be the pickup. If you rather have a meet at an anonymous place rather then revealing your house nobody should pick up. Just pick the most convienient option for the two of you and try to enjoy it rather then overcomplicating haha.
It depends whether it is necessary for me to do so. I usually ask them to meet me there i never imply a date its more of a casual meet up. Its too much pressure on the girl if it sounds too serious. I will pick them up depending on the distance between where she lives and where we heading. But i almost always drop them off home or somewhere nearby. If the date goes well you would expect to extend to a home visit and one outing is more than enough.
Well yes he should offer to pick you up, but he might've made the suggestion to meet somewhere because he didn't know how you felt about him going to your house and picking you up from there. I think most women just prefer to meet a guy she was to go out with until she got to know him a little better.
Depends. As a personal rule, I don't like being picked up by a guy during the first three dates for safety reasons, especially if I don't really know the guy. Unless he's a friend of several months, I'm driving myself.
But if he's your boyfriend, he should. Sometimes I drive, sometimes my boyfriend drives, but when go somewhere, we go together, not in separate cars.
You trust a guy with your home address and are fine relying upon him to take you home later? I figured it's always safer and just much easier for her to meet me somewhere. If a girl offered to pick me up, I'd be worried she might try and stuff me in her trunk.
Normally that'd be fine, but I have to at least cook her dinner first before we move to that stage.
So the thing is I think he should unless he doesn't have a way to do it... I mean if he doesn't drive it's not his fault... But asking to meet you somewhere for a date is kinda here... I think... It's more of a friend meeting a friend kinda thing... But I guess everyone is different
I mean, it depends if the guy has a car, besides maybe he's rich and can pick you up
in a very fancy limousine or you can just meet him halfway in a cab. Some women
have cars and pick the guy up. But for you, I will say this, yes, he should. A Man needs to feel like he's taking care of everything on the date, from how he picks you
up and the time and place to where you eat and how the bill is paid after.
That depends on how well you know him. If not very well, take your own ride so you can leave if he's a creep. Otherwise, he probably should be the one to pick you up, considering he asked you out and 24 generally has his own car.
If geography isn't the issue. He should offer both. Sometimes I've felt more at ease on a first date when I meet him. And other times I love to be picked up. It really comes down to how comfortable you are.
I encourage women you choose. If they want me to pick them up, I will. If they don't want to be dependent on me to get home, I have no problem meeting them somewhere
I always like to drive for my own safety. if I absolutely have to get picked up, I make sure to leave the guys license plate number with a friend or family member.
Historically the guy always picked the girl up, opened the door, and paid for her meal. But times has changed. Now days people are supposed to treat each other as equals. And yet when it comes to dating some girls still want it the old fashion way.
It depends on how well you know him. When I go on a first date, I drive myself just in case things don't work out.
He's supposed to pick you up unless he doesn't have a car and i can't proceed with advice as i never dated a guy without a car
Well... usually it is the guy that picks you up to begin with though. Then again there is exceptions, i mean it just varies though.
Nah, meeting somewhere is fine. It all depends what you guys agree too before hand though, like if you need a ride then speak up before the plans are set.
if you know him, you should be able to talk about it. if you dont know him, you dont want him at your house anyhow.
Either way is fine.
I would suggest meeting up cause you don't want to give your home address to a stranger.
Yes he should be willing but a lot of women nowadays want alternate transport just in case the date goes bad. If Uber is active in your area just let him pick you up. If it goes tits up, you're out some cab fare.
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