Now, i feel like i need to confirm something. If i go on a date with a guy, I have no problem splitting the bill. the thing is, if the guy doesn't offer to pay for me, I feel as if the date WASN'T going great. is this ok? I don't want to seem like a gold-digger, and i dont have a problem paying, but i still feel like if the guy doesn't offer, it wasn't a good date.
1. its JUST the offer i want. id still rather pay half, but offering to pay for the meal, for me, might show more of an interest
2. i have no problem paying for the guy, but i would not feel comftrble doing that on the first dates
Most Helpful Guy
Its this constant "need" women feel that guys should pay the entire bill. The cost of the meal goes hand in hand the real question isn't so much its a pain to split the bill. So much as WHY did he choose to split the bill in the first place rather than pay out of free will?
Maybe the date wasn't as great as maybe it felt like it might be. Or it just ran out of steam. I mean the idea to pay for the whole meal shouldn't be expected to be done on the mans budget simply cause its chivalry. Guys go out of the way for girls if they get something in return (NOT meant in any sexual or financial advances.) Rather more like if the girl or woman they are dating leaves with genuine smile and is also on board to keep the "train" going.
Then it feels like its how should I put it? An investment I guess? Into future potential pride and happiness.
For me if your a woman and you expect the guy to pay then you better not let the date get dull for a single moment. Or it no ones fault he didn't pay except your own.
Plus sometimes being able to see a woman be able to pay for her own meal also shows that she has pride in being self sufficient and lessens. The feeling that she is going to be needy or leeching off of the guy. And in my personal opinion the term "gold diggers" when it comes to women is on a whole separate league when it comes to women.0
Most Helpful Girl
I don't understand your logic.
If a guy sees you as an equal, and doesn't feel he needs to prove his interest by paying for your food, you assume the date hasn't went well?
Women baffle me sometimes and I am a woman myself. Money spent is not an indication of interest. If anything if a guy feels spending money on you is the best way to indicate his interest, he likely sees you as less of a thoughtful and interesting person, as he's assuming monetary things like dinners and dates is all he needs to win you over. A guy who is trying to win you over with nothing but his mind and his company is somebody who sees you as more than an obligation.5