I like this girl and to me she is amazing. She is the first person I think about when I get up in the morning and the past thought to go through my head at night when I go to bed. The problem is she is just recently single and wants to enjoy being single. I understand that and totally respect it but I'm falling for this girl and want nothing more than to be with her (and I've told her that).
Another problem is that she is on a break and at the end of the summer she is going to decided with her ex if they should be together. I don't want to put myself out there and fall for her if all she is going to do is go back to someone else.
I got really hurt at the end of last year when my girlfriend of 4+ years and I broke up. I haven't had a relationship since then and this girl is really the first person I have liked since my ex. I'm not sure I can handle getting hurt again. What do I do?
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You are way too invested in this women and you don't even have a relationship with her. That's the stuff stalkers are made of, so stop pining over her. Furthermore you probably freaked her out by telling her you're interested and she's going to avoid you now. Take a break from the fantasy and get out there and meet some new women.
It's understandable that you don't want to get hurt again, but you need to take a step back and reevaluate your life. You're relying on others for your happiness and mental wellbeing and that's not a good thing. The whole Jerry McGuire "you complete me" Hollywood romance is complete bullshit. Get that out of your head right now, otherwise you'll never truly be happy with yourself as a person.
I strongly suggest you get out of your head (and house) and read Magic Bullets, Venusian Arts Handbook, and The Game by Neil Strauss. Get out there and be sociable. Meet new and interesting people. Take control of your life and stop being so dependent on others for your happiness. You'll thank me later.0