You need to realise that most women cannot orgasm from penetration by a penis, and nothing else!
Most women need to have some digital stimulation of their clitoral area at the same time, it is not the guys or girls fault, it is the way people are made, they vary a lot!
It is best if the female masturbates herself as required, only she knows what feels good!
It is also essential to point out that orgasms, for either gender, come from the brain, if you are not turned on you will never orgasm, your mind set needs to be right!
So, it is perfectly possible for healthy people to orgasm while making love, or with just a good shag!
Foreplay is necessary in most cases, you can do a lot of fun arousal with fingers and tongues, there should never be penetration by a penis without the female naturally lubricating first.
Then, when you are fucking, or making love, passion should build automatically if you like, or love, each other, but a bit of clitoral stimulation works wonders, if your mind is in the right place.
You should be relaxed, with no worrying about work, debts, kids, shopping, mowing the lawn or the colour of the ceiling, you need to be in tune with sexual fun and passion.
(Premature ejaculation, if that is a problem, is a whole other area)
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Have you discussed this with him? What have you done to address this problem? What is his attitude?
Remember this: the test of a relationship is not whether you have problems, because that will happen in every relationship. The sign of a good relationship is how you handle problems when they arise.
Talk to him about it. I dont see why so many females are so scared to speak up when they are not sexually satisfied. You are in a relationship with the guy so your needs do matter. I can tell you that he is wasn't getting pleased he will speak up about it. So why should you hold your feelings back?
Some guys don't try very hard because they don't want to try and fail. Maybe have him watch you masturbate and then take your hand and show him where it feels good. Some young guys don't understand female anatomy much, but try to act cool rather than seem clueless.
Your young and I assume he is around your age too. Things get better with experience but all you have to do is communicate. Tell him you don't like that or you want him to do it like this... etc.
Be blunt, honest and tell him what's up. Sitting in bitter silence does nothing. Make it clear he has to step it up and be ready to take some steps yourself.
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I'd get a little on the side... i mean... after i tell em that they suck in bed. gotta discuss it first tho. and if he/she refuses to amp the game up to meet needs... then they betray the relationship "contract"... making it perfectly ok for me to get some on the outside.
Some people call it cheating... i call it completion.
If my partner won't (not cant) do it, someone else will. just as long as its sexual ONLY.
This is why i said cheating doesn't begin with one partner porking an outsider, it begins way before. If you have that talk wit your boy and he won't even try to satisfy you, just as long as he gets "his"... feel free to bone an outsider darling. thats neglect... that betrays the relationship contract.Show him what you like. Guide him by hand. Talk to him about it outside the bedroom. Take charge of your orgasm - show him what you want.
Guys his age don't have any experience and thus no skill either. It takes time and effort, and the right girl. There are also good guides online as well as books on how to pleasure a woman. It's not that hard to figure out.I bought a book of sexual positions and suggested we try some
first of all, stay calm and whelmed
thats how your going to solve this problem
second... if this relationship of yours is so serious, then you should be able to talk about this topic with him. and he should understand.It is obvious that the two of you are sexually incompatible and if you've been having terrible sex over the course of your relationship then he's not going to get any better in pleasing you!
If I were you, I'd find yourself a fuck buddy whom you can have fantastic sex with while still having a happy relationship because as you said the other areas of your lives together is great except for the sex!
You're young and you only live once so enjoy sex with other sexual partners 😉 👅 🍌Tell him what you feel seriously and with in your relationship if you care for it...
If he doesn't improve it out with on pleasuring you then you should breakup cause you have a right to have good sex tooGo online and buy some toys. He'll get the idea. But if you can tell us, you can tell him. At least bring it up and give him a chance to fix it.
Do what you've been doing - (blowing his friends and fucking his dad).
Have you discussed this with him? Does he know of your physical needs? Maybe you can both come to an agreement whereby you can be satisfied... maybe he is holding off, because he is trying to abstain for some reason...
U know what -
Be honest with him, try different things but if all fails then,
PLAY SMART-
Find a friends with benefits and get satisfied but dont leave your boyfriend.Why doesn't he? I mean what's the problem specifically?
Tell that to him not us!.. Or give me contact!..
I will do it for you and we can drag him to gag# and we have good coaches hereThink about what and how you want to be pleased, then have a chat with him.
Honest hurts tell him the truth in a nice way.. If he can't not last that long make sure to get in more foreplay if it's his size nothing you can change about that. But more foreplay more oral should do the job if he should want to go the distance to satisfy you.. If he can't than find someone new SEX is not everything but it is a lot and it can and will ruin a relationships...
Stay calm and don't cheat in him just because if sex. Maybe try masturbation! I have a question, do you like when guys shave their whole body including legs over very hairy man?
Do a lot of experimenting and figure what exactly gets you turned on. Does he even do anything for you sexually?
It means both of you have to comunicate better, don´t expect him to guest what you want, you gotta tell him, otherwise you´ll keep been sexually frustrated, if he doesn´t listen to you that´s alredy a big red light in the relationship.
Have you ever been with a guy who DOES please you sexually? How was he different from your current guy?
Tell him he sucks at having sex.. Drive up to the next step
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