Depends what feelings exactly and what the situation is but there are many reasons:
1. Scared of being open
2. Don't like feeling vulnerable
3. Scared of being rejected
4. Don't want to be first to bring something up
5. Awkwardness
6. I personally find it hard to work out my own feelings and explain/express things
7. Testing the waters to see how they react (eg. "everyone keeps asking me what I'm doing for valentines day and I genuinely have no idea".. see what/if he suggests something because I want to do something to celebrate it).
8. Afraid that he doesn't feel the same
If a girl likes you though she will usually make it somewhat obvious. Or at least she will think it's obvious. Treating you differently in some way whether she is extra shy around you or suddenly way more open and confident. She will give you some sort of special treatment. Perhaps she touches you a lot more than everyone else, wants to spend as much time with you as possible, she jokes and teases you a lot more, looks at you and smiles whenever you're around, goes quiet around you all of a sudden, etc. There will be a difference in behavior. I'm not sure if it's just me but I'm usually pretty good at picking up on if guys like me. I just get a feeling and I can tell there is something between us. Surely that's the same for everyone else too?
If a girl isn't interested but thinks you like her she will just act nice to avoid hurting you and probably give you a few signs that she isn't interested, such as talking about other guys.
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Usually, it's how they've been taught or other insecurities. It would be best to just be blunt about it. But not everybody is okay with that. Some consider it very rude or they will get offended. Most guys may not find that attractive or even feminine. And you have to think about all the stupid dating tips girls get from online forums, magazines such as Seventeen and Cosmopolitan, and their peers who are often loose and flirting with different guys at the same time. As well as the unrealistic expectations both genders already set for each other.
Sometimes expression one's feelings are not easy no matter if your shy, overly confident, etc. Even with lots of practice, it doesn't matter. Not everybody is the same, and how you carry yourself will carry a lot of weight. And it also have to do with experience from the past. I know from my experience guys would always mock me and pretend to find me attractive when they really didn't. Or they did find me attractive but played head games just to try to get into your pants. How we get treated by other men determines how you will treat all of us as women as a whole. Women learn from men and men teaches women. Because we can be very much interested, but not all prospective partners show's the same amount of interest. It's a risk either way. I don't agree with flirting and all the subtle signs. I believe that people shouldn't put up with that and be more genuine in their approach in a way that makes the other and themselves comfortable.
What girls are these? Oh right! GIRLS! They're not going to be upfront because if you say no it'd break their little schoolgirl hearts, they don't realize that most guys wouldn't even hesitate to say yes. They're not secure in themselves and therefore not the best relationship material. The women who know themselves and what they want are the one's who don't fuck around with guy's heads and keep them guessing. That doesn't mean you should crap on the girls attempts just be upfront, like you want her to be, and make it clear that it's not acceptable for her to be so incognito about liking you; if that's the case. First find out if she likes you and if yes then do what I suggested in the last sentence. It's the best way to build her up for the future so that no other guy has to go through this with her.
Maybe she's not interested in you that way.
Maybe she's shy.
If you're being super obvious about your feelings and made moves, and she's still acting shy or confused, most likely if means she doesn't like you that way.
In the courtship, it is traditionally the man's responsibility to see these subtleties. Women still follow the old ways of that part of a relationship. Most women are more sensitive to rejection than men so they wait for him to approach.
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I will be brutally honest... if a girl doesn't like you, she will just be NICE, she does not want to hurt you, so therefore she is acting nice, trust me if a girl likes you for real, YOU WILL NOTICE IT, and if she is not upfront it's because she is scared to be refused just like guys are scared too... I would say to let things happen without ANALYZING behaviors, no matter if its a girl of a boy, just live your life, and one day a chick is gonna fall on your lap from heavn and be like HEYYY here i am :P when you least expect it... trust me son ;)
A question for you, why do guys hesitate speaking about their feelings to girls?
I am the total opposite. I used to chase guys and tell them how I felt but got rejected a dozen times lol! The rejection took a huge toll on me and now I have completely shut myself up. If a guy likes me he HAS to speak about his feelings first and not the otherwise.we don't want to come across as desperate. We're also scared of rejection cause when we crush we fall hard. So when we're not upfront with our feelings it's mainly because we want you to see us for who we are inside before you automatically judge us off of appearance. We just want to be noticed by you first.
For me, I'm scared of the rejection/humiliation, and I'm also usually confused about the other person's feelings to me. Also I'm not that great looking, so I really can't tell if someone is just nice or flirting either. I usually assume it's nice, because I'm very anxious and self conscious. Also, girls probably don't come and talk about their feelings because of all the social norm that has people set on the opinion that guys should make the moves first to show that they care enough to pursue something.
I'm usually upfront, but we are deterred from telling our feelings in fear of being hurt. Now I have a question for you: why do guys stop contact after you tell them you are interested back? (As in, the guy says he likes you first).
Because we're insecure and fear rejection. It's really as simple as that. Make her feel safe and unjudged and she'll tell you anything.
I give a big hug to the guy I'm not close with, is that not obvious enough? Does that not scream "I want to rub my body all over you!!!"
Yea dude i feel you. Men hunt, women graze... Ever go shopping? You go, get ur shit n get the fuck out.
Women, go, meander look at other shitI have confessed my feelings, and it usually backfires
They're just afraid that the guy won't feel the same.
Girls don't have feelings - At least not real ones.
If I like a guy I tell him
They're scared of being open.
Shyness and lack of practice maybe?
Because we like the chase.
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