He wants to cook me dinner.. he wants sex right?

[meringue9800]

4th date: he's asked me over to his place and he wants to cook me lunch/dinner. Guys is this a way to get me into bed? I'm guessing it is. Thing is I like him but don't want him to just have sex with me and move on. I'm thinking of doing a few things and one of them involves just saying yes to the date and when he tries to sleep with me I could let him know that sex will mean I want an emotional commitment from him. I do know men don't see sex the same way as women! Or should I suggest we meet somewhere else instead of his home?

[tngirl1995]

Not necessarily. Has he said he's looking for a relationship or just a hook up. Now doesn't always mean he is being honest, but from my experience, I went over to this guys house on the first official date for him to cook me dinner. He cooked us some rib eye steaks, veggies and rolls, watched a movie on his couch, and about halfway through the movie he put his arm around me and we cuddled. That's all there was to it. Some guys are still old school and don't just want sex, but it's not always easy to tell. If you like him and he's said he doesn't just want a hook up, wheres the harm in it? Enjoy a nice meal, get to know him and if it does come to that, say no. If he's a gentleman he will respect you more for it. Best of luck!

[chrissykerdock]

what might work bring your long lost friend or your friend who suddenly has developed an emotional problem and needs to be with you... i hate to say it if he's inviting you to his place he will at least make a bold attempt to have sex with you in my own experience 1/2 of them answer the door with a towel wrapped around their waist when i ring their bell or knock on their door... the joke is on the 3rd date is sex time but have sex when you want to and feel comfortable not before why should you conform to what someone else wants or their agenda and not yours... so i wish you luck with this and hopefully he'll understand... or you could tell him right out that your not ready for sex.

[Anonymous]

Maybe it would be good to have a talk about sex with him so that things are clear between you guys and there are no misunderstandings. For this, you need to postpone the date where he wants to cook dinner for you. Tell him there's a movie you've been dying to watch at the movies or something you've been wanting to do lately to postpone the home made dinner date.

[rwlock]

Talking about sex is the fastest way to make things super awkward and creep him out. Do anything but that

[littleheartbigbooty]

^True

[Opinion Owner]

@rwlock Well, to begin with I don't know if they have talked about what type of relationship they have or what they want from each other. I like communicating my wants and needs without pussyfooting around any subject and I expect the same from him. If a guy can't handle that he will be shown the door.

[meringue9800]

Yeah I agree making it clear what we both want is important

[melodybluesy]

yes, of course he wants sex! just say. "if we are going to be spending any time at either yours or my place, then I will need to see your all clear of std' blood work. "don't your life.

[melodybluesy]

*risk

[Grobmate]

He could be trying to show you he is domesticated. You may possibly have forgotten also that Men show their emotions through action. Cooking for a woman is a very romantic gesture from any man.

[Anonymous]

Probably he wants sex. If you don't want to have sex with him yet then meet him in some public place. Can I ask you a question?

[meringue9800]

What question

[Opinion Owner]

Are most girls turned off by guys who have LOTS of hair on his body including chest?

[meringue9800]

Well if it's lots and lots it would be a turn off but if it's some hair then that's fine. If it's an issue you can always have some of it waxed or electrolysis

[Opinion Owner]

OK got it. It's the same. Girls DO hate HAIRY men. :'( Anyway, so even you feel if a man is asking to meet a girl in personal place then he is wanting sex?

[meringue9800]

Yes. It's hard to run away and makes a girl feel vulnerable.

[rwlock]

Yeah he's definitely trying to get laid. That's one of my moves as well, works like a charm.

[beach_chick]

I'm so scared now. I'm in the same situation and I already agreed to go see him.

[BrittBratt2416]

Yup.. ask him out some place else in public.

[soupfairy]

he is probably interested in sex but that may not be the specific reason he asked. he could be short on cash or just want to do something more intimate. you should just let him know how you feel. if he only wants sex, he will probably just cancel.

[cavmanier]

No one know if he wants sex that night. If you are really worried about it, you can tell him you'd like to wait awhile ahead of time.

[littleheartbigbooty]

There's like a 0.5% chance he's just a really nice guy but I'm pretty positive he wants sex

[Cosytoasty]

I love how you made this connection lol. You know guys can simply want to do nice things for too, or perhaps show off their cooking skills.

[TripleAce]

If you're not ready to be intimate, donmt ruin a home dinner date then --> wait when you're ready to be romantically sexy (not sex but just willing to be sexually romantic)

Just go on a date out for now

[Ayshea]

99% chance he's expecting sex.

[meringue9800]

Well to protect yourself from being a hook up what would you do

[Ayshea]

If I don't want to sleep with him, I'd probably ask to meet elsewhere.

[multitudeaa]

Why do you say strongly about him expecting sex? Damn he is just wanting to cook for her. WY do women assume men have wrong intentions everytime

[Ayshea]

@multitudeaa It's not wrong to want to have sex. It's not like they haven't been dating, and he's only interested in sex, but she just doesn't want to sleep with him yet.

[multitudeaa]

I get it that she isn't wanting to sleep with him yet. But the way you answered it gave me the impression that he / men just ant sex from a woman just because they want to meet him in some personal place

[Ayshea]

@multitudeaa In my experience if he invites me to his house and cooks me a meal, it means he's expecting some action.

[multitudeaa]

It's so sad to hear that girls feel so negative and bad about men :'(

[Ayshea]

@multitudeaa Even the guys who answered agree. Plus it's not a bad thing.

[Coconutty]

Yup that's what he wants. I've never had a man offer to do this, so I can't give you advice, but if he's asking you to his place it's pretty definitely what he wants.

[NerdInDenial]

Yup sex is definitely on the horizon.

[pooper89]

He might genuinely just want to cook you dinner. If he wants to cuddle afterwards, just don't let it progress. Tell him you're not ready fie sex. If he really likes you he'll wait

[realperson02]

If you don't want to have sex then you can date somewhere outside.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

No.
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[cupidkisses]

maybe

[Decentguy]

lmaoo xD
the question title is really funny as hell xD
by the way i dont think he's trying to get in bed with you.

[NajemEddine]

he wants to cook for u
and eat u :p shave down there for logistical reasons

[Anonymous]

Daaaamn 4th date and no sex? You better give it up or it might be the last date.
He probably wants to make you dinner... and also do you, yes.
Id text him and mention you want something serious so you can talk about it, make sure yer on the same page.

[Anonymous]

Women would be so perfect if they weren't crazy
maybe he just wants to cook dinner? I don't know..
if you think he's going to use you for sex just because he wants to cook for you then don't go, simple.

I love how some complain about how men don't cook for them, then when they do cook for them, shit like this happens.. lol

[Thepowderpuff]

Lmaoo I’m completely offended but laughing at the same time