Should girls ask guys out?

[Kytb0405]

Girls, would you ever ask a guy out? Guys, would you mind if a girl asked you out?

Would love it.

Okay with it but it'd be weird.

Depends on the situation.

Never.

[msg812]

Of course they should. Just assume that a guy loves a girl but he is shy so he can't ask her out or he thinks she is so good to be his girlfriend but actually the girl loves the guy too. Although they love each other, shouldn't they be together because of this stupid "guys should take first step" rule. This is illogical.

[msg812]

Thanks for chooding me mhg by the way can you ask the girl who you chose most helpful girl "why did she block me", please?

[AleDeEurope]

I think it's stupid that they don't. Not asking guys out is just letting guys decide your future when it comes to relationships. These women would rather die alone with cats, than go up to a guy and introduce themselves.
It's pathetic.

If you want something in life, go up and get it, don't wait for it to come.

[Kytb0405]

I get your point, even through it's a little harsh, but well said.

[papak]

At first the idea sounds great but after a few girls that i had absolutely no interest in, Id rather stick to the choosing

[Kytb0405]

But girls tend to be more selective than guys. And guys tend to be more sure about things. A girl is likely to reject a guy she has no interest in but a guy might give a girl a chance even if he didn't particularly like the girl to begin with.

[papak]

So then is that fair to the girl? What I'm hearing is that before the guy is interested so he asks out a girl, and if the girl is interested too she agrees. Both parties are interested and happy. The new idea is the girl is interested so she asks a potentially uninterested guy, who may still say yes even though uninterested. That leaves the girl as the only one invested.

Anyways, im just speaking for my personal opinion from my experience. I enjoy choosing and the girls that ask me out have never been my choice, or anywhere near it.

[Kytb0405]

But at least the girls get a chance to show you who they are. If not you could just give clear signs you aren't interested or break it off.

[papak]

If thats who she is than more power to her i suppose. Im not gonna hate on girls that ask out guys or guys that get into relationships that way. With me, Im gonna choose who I want and not settle for who comes to me. Also, i prefer shy girls, who typically wouldn't make the first move.

Again, this is my preference and just how I choose to live my life.

[adamjanovic]

I'm a bit old-fashioned when it comes to some things, but I believe it should always be the guy who asks the girl out. Men like to chase, not be chased, and I think they don't really get to do that if the girl asks them out so they lose interest faster.

[Kytb0405]

A lot of guys actually like being chased because it makes them feel desired. I think it's probably the same for women but I'm not sure.

[vc1990]

As a guy, I'd like to be chased and desired as well. Initiating works both ways otherwise nothing happens at the end when nobody is making the first move. I'm not saying the girl have to ask the guy out, at least be more approachable and talk to him if you're interested in the guy.

[Kirah]

Men like to chase? Almost every opinion on here says otherwise.

As usual, you're projecting. *You* want to be chased. Somehow you've translated that into "guys like the chase". I call BS.

[adamjanovic]

@Kirah Seriously, chill the f--k out. I'm just expressing my own personal opinion, which is what this site is about. You don't have to agree with me, but be respectful of people's opinions even if they're not the same as yours.

[Imafreespirit]

It's kind of scary lol I've done it once but it was by text so it wasn't that bad 😛

[Kytb0405]

Still works.

[underratedm]

I would ask a guy out anytime. If I like you and wanna be around you why not?

[MelisC]

Sure why not? There's not such rule

[Kytb0405]

Right, there isn't, it's just a stubborn tradition that people can't get past.

[Natasha-321]

Ok so I just asked my brother(he's 17) and he said he'd be fine if a girl asked him out especially if he likes her. He said it takes the pressure of us guy because were nervous enough as it is we might not show it but when we see a pretty girl we wanna ask her out but were afraid on the inside about the chance of rejection so if she approaches us we have a sigh of relief. (hes would never tell his friends that =p) ( he doesn't know im letting you know)

[jauggernot]

I would be fine with a girl asking me out, but some guys really are not ok with that level of assertiveness from a girl yet. I think if you are interested and he doesn't seem like he'll make a move due to his shyness then why not? Just go for it, we are in the modern day after all.

[Curiousaboutguystuff]

I would, but i'm too shy to even go to a guy and make conversation

[Kytb0405]

I would think confidence would be a turn on at that point. As a guy I would normally do first and think later in that situation, not sure if it works for girls though.

[Curiousaboutguystuff]

Well if it's a guy that really caught my eye, i might go up to him. And i get confident once i get to know person :D

[slatyb]

Yes, girls should ask guys out. There are a lot of young men and women who would make terrific partners with just a little encouragement, but they lack confidence.

[Anonymous]

I have no problem with that but something I don't like is when a girl asks you out and wants to pay for it to sorry I don't do that I'm paying even with my ex she always wants to get something to eat after work and I don't go because I don't have any money and she's like I have money and I tell her I'm not letting you pay 4 me

[jul4a]

I don't know if I'd ever do it because I'd be too scared, I'm pretty shy. I'd get so nervous. I'm not against other girls doing it. But in the long run (at least for me) I would hope the guy asked me out because I'd be too shy to do it.

[1234macy]

Change that mindset. :) Remember, guys also have to deal with the same shyness/anxiety of coming up to someone they like too. The only difference is a lot of girls "expect" them to make dating easier for girls by having them do this nerve-wracking task.

[Kytb0405]

And it's really stressful for guys because girls reject a lot. Taken, gay, not interested, etc. And most guys can tell when they're lying.

[Anonymous]

The only reason a guy would be weirded out by a girl asking him out would be that a) he is very insecure, or b) he believes in the "old fashioned" way of dating, in which case he probably would have already asked you.

Women have fought for equality in every aspect of today's world and that means they should also be allowed to ask men out on dates. Therefore I'd say you should ask him out, the worst that could happen is he gets a huge ego-boost haha

[saturndream]

I would and I did it once. :) We were both kinda shy and I decided to take matters in to my own hands.

[Kytb0405]

And did it turn out well?

[b-reanna-24]

There's no problem in asking a guy out

if a ur a little scared to be completely blunt, just ask him if he wants to hangout

sometime, and if he carries this conversation on, then make plans to a movie

since its a no stress date=)

[Kirah]

I always make the first move. So, yes. I think women should ask out men too.

[littleheartbigbooty]

I've never asked a guy out, but it's because of my shyness. I'm hella shy. If I were more confident, I totally would.

[Kytb0405]

You think guys aren't shy too?

[littleheartbigbooty]

I do know that guy are shy too

[Kytb0405]

Some are more shy than some girls.

[littleheartbigbooty]

It depends on the person. I'm just saying that I'm not confident enough and that I fear rejection a lot. If a guy is shy and still can do it, good for him, but I just can't. It's not that I don't cause I think it's a guy's job to ask people out

[Kytb0405]

Guys fear rejection too, and girls are more likely to reject.

[littleheartbigbooty]

I don't know what you're trying to get me to say honestly

[lefthand]

Absolutely. Be sure you are clear about what you are doing and what you expect but I find there is little in the world so flattering as a woman who is willing to express an interest in me.

[GIntrovert]

Depends on the guy, but I don't think it will make a guy like or dislike her more.

[YingKim]

Maybe give guy more clear sign she is interested. But I am not kind of girl to ask.

[Anonymous]

I'm not totally against it, but I have doubts because I was taught not to

[Kytb0405]

What if the guy you like never asks because he doesn't think you like him as more than a friend? Then you're left to wonder "What if...".

[Opinion Owner]

If a guy doesn't ask me out, I just assume he doesn't like me. It didn't really occur to me that some guys are just shy or fear rejection, but I guess you have a point.

[AriiAtarii]

I have before and it just feels weird like im the guy in the relationship

[Kytb0405]

You're supposed to be equals in a relationship. Guys and girls can share and interchange responsibilities.

[InsurmounTilda]

I would do it if I could get over my shyness

[Zorax]

Yes, that would be great.

[Anonymous]

Go for it, if he liked you it would show that you are interested in him & he would probably be glad you did.

[Mr-Kabuki]

It goes against nature. It still it's cool