Ok so if dating wasn't so confusing then this whole website wouldn't exist!
So I guess I'm really asking;
What are some of the troubles you have with dating?
What is the ONE thing that you also seem to bump into that prevents you from dating successfully?
I ask this because I'm in the process of writing a book and I want to be able to answer some REAL life issues and troubles that you guys may have.
So let me know
Hot Alpha Female
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Most Helpful Guy
Selfishness is the most dangerous thing about dating. We put on aires because we have desires that we want fulfilled, even if it means we have to deceive the other person into fulfilling them. When the truth starts to come out, we hedge our bets, using coping mechanisms we have learned throughout our lives, to keep the deepest, darkest, secrets from coming out. Then we try to persuade others to support our version of events, when we all know our perception is incomplete, if not skewed, due to our filters that keep us from seeing reality as it truly is. We call it self preservation, self protection, self defense, etc. What it really amounts to is a lack of trust in God, our selves and others, which leads to minimized risks, and minimized returns. Everything we do to reduce the risk, reduces the potential rewards, until neither risk or reward is worthy of the investment made.0