Would a guy blush if he isn't interested? Did he lie to me? Why could he have been staring if he didn't have feelings for me?

[Anonymous]

This guy @ church had given me hints he likes me.. complimenting, staring when I'm not looking, keeps staring when I look @ him, can't look me in the eyes @ times when talking to me. He said we could gaze into each others eyes when singing a duet. Gave him my number in a card on Christmas. No call. Gave an excuse he zoned out & looked embarrassed/kept apologizing. One Sun. night in Feb., he was behind me & had his mouth open staring when I turned around. During the convo he asked if I was busy. I said no not really I just crochet. Kept asking about it but didn't say why he asked if I was busy. He came on Sunday to church in a pink shirt (my fav. color-he knows this). I complimented him after the first Easter service when he walked by me.. when I was standing by my Sunday School room. I didn't have any kids that day so I went to my class. His roommate/choir director was sitting by him but there was a chair across from him.. so I sat there. He was fidgety-angled his body towards me, kept crossing & uncrossing his legs, touched his hair,& @ one point leaned forward. He didn't look @ me much. After Sunday School we had another church service. We were standing in the hall waiting to warm up for choir. When no one was standing in that part of the hall, he came out of the kitchen, turned to face me,& was staring at me.. giving me this come hither look w/his chin down & his eyes looking up at me. The way the light was hitting his eyes.. like they sparkled. He had the same expression before Christmas.. but I looked @ him, looked away twice, looked back & then he looked away. I know he was definitely staring @ me both times.

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+1 y

I told him I noticed him noticing me in fb chat. I know its been awhile since Dec. I have a feeling you want 2 talk 2 me. You can talk to me sometime alone if you want to. Sometime when there isn't other people around..2 make you more comfortable. Told him what time I get in my Sunday School room & said it could be another time if he wanted. Im not pressuring you. however I can tell you that you won't get a bad reaction or be rejected if thats what your afraid of.

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+1 y

Im nervous. Thats why I looked away. I wasn't sure if you were daydreaming again or not. The other night when I saw him he pulled me away from my table and said he wanted to talk to me. He said he was sorry if he sent mixed messages. He has no romantic interest in me. He wasn't looking me in the eyes when he said it. Did he lie? The other night at choir he was staring at times from behind the piano. One time I glanced he was slightly blushing. I only looked @ him 3 times and stared @ the floor.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes people blush due to awkwardness. Other times they might blush because there might be another girl around them that they are interested in. It doesn't necessarily mean that he blushed due to you being around.

[Asker]

He was staring at me.

[airgrayhawk]

He likes you! A lot of guys will say things or think of random reasons to come talk to you. Oh gosh does he like you! Go get that man, gurl!! Definitely seek prayer, but as far as I can see he likes you!!

[Asker]

but he rejected me. :( Did he lie?

[airgrayhawk]

Wow. My bad. I responded before you updated the question. Honestly if he says he had no romantic interest you have you respect that. He may just think you're attractive, but that's really it.

[airgrayhawk]

I don't know a guy would take the time to pull his crush aside and say"Hey I have no romantic interest in you or anyone else." He may like your​ personality and think you're attractive, but just know he isn't ready to be in a relationship.

[Asker]

I wasn't trying to pressure him and the signs were all there. He did all of that. Am I wrong for assuming? I'm really upset! Did I do something wrong?

[Asker]

It seemed he was obvious and flirting. He praised my singing. He complimented my clothes numerous times. It makes no sense.

[Asker]

Maybe he hates me and wants to murder me. :(

[airgrayhawk]

I don't think you did anything wrong at all. Perhaps he did like you, but then just not. Guys are tricky like that sometimes. He was most likely just bring friendly at those times. Maybe he felt close to you and thought it would be ok to compliment you at times.

[airgrayhawk]

Yeah, I'm definitely going against the whole hate you and wants to murder you thing

[Asker]

Why would he keep staring?

[airgrayhawk]

Thinks you're attractive and would like to be with you, but some reason only known to him. He can't. Honestly what I would do is talk to someone who knows him well and ask them about him and see what they say

[Asker]

Maybe he is getting over someone else? I don't know. His profile said single.

[airgrayhawk]

We never truly know what's going on in other people's lives. That could be a possibility. You could talk to him. Seek closure about the whole thing. The more you just think on it and do nothing it will cause you to become more confused.

[Anonymous]

He is interested... he's just very shy.

[Asker]

He rejected me because he's shy? You mean he did lie? How can you tell for sure? I noticed he didn't look me in the eyes and he was looking around the room over my head. He was pausing as well and walked away quickly from me.

[Asker]

Why would he have done that if he would have had a chance?