Is flirty / sexual banter a normal part of pre-dating and dating for you?

[Anonymous]

I've just had a unique experience (for me) and I wonder if anyone has experienced something similar. Whenever I'm texting a guy online before meeting and upon meeting, there's usual flirty banter, some sexual innuendos etc. flying around which I love as it makes everything a bit cheeky and exciting. I'm not easy I just enjoy the teasing one another.

I just realised with a guy I went on a date with there was no flirty banter despite my using various double entendres, saying I was going in the shower, in bed etc. which guys always seem to jump on.

We had a good date with chatting etc. but again no flirty banter really.

I had just presumed him not interested and texted him a day after to say thanks and that I had a good time. He replied saying it was good and asked a few questions - sent a longish text.

Now he hasn't been in contact for two days but has been on the dating site. My male friends think he's a player keeping his options open but they thought it odd there was no sexual innuendos or him even try to have sex or push things that way. I can understand him not being attracted to me in person perhaps but we were talking constantly for a week and he found my photos attractive.

Anyone else had anything like this happen?

Is flirty banter and a bit of sexual tension important for you in the pre-dating and dating stages?

[Anonymous]

Maybe he didn't want to take it there, thought you may think it to soon to talk like that , some women make it like that these day, it's hard to know which ones will be receptive to it

[Asker]

Thank you! I just find that most guys automatically do this. Lesson learned haha

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I wish I could read women's minds, then I would have no problem taking it there 😊 We just have to be careful since we don't know

[Asker]

I guess men have to be so careful that they don't come off as creeps. From where I'm from in the UK (Wales) banter is a part of the culture. Ribbing people and making it flirting is almost second nature. Perhaps that's why I found it so weird!

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe I need to visit England again since I'm from the states women are a lot different here and we would come off as creeps like you said if we did that , lol

[mindfreaktony]

no. it's not. I prefer to be myself but ya I try to keep humor mode on so that she enjoys a lot

[Asker]

Thank you for the help.

[mindfreaktony]

you love humour?

[Asker]

I think it's one of the most important things. Especially in dating! Life and the world is so serious right now you need people to have fun with.

[mindfreaktony]

Yaa. 100% true dear

[mindfreaktony]

would you mind becoming friends?

[Asker]

On here? Sure!

[mindfreaktony]

send me request dear.

[Anonymous]

That doesn't mean he was not interested in you. It might have meant that he doesn't know how to do that/he's not good at it.

[pankaj14]

no its not. Actually lot of people believe in internal beauty. i have lot of experience sexual need come later.

[Asker]

Maybe it is the area I live in and how we all communicate!

[pankaj14]

yes its depend on your partner. if you need my opinion i just want to hold my Dating partner hand and touch her hairs and take kiss on her forehead and express how much i love her

[KittyKat90210]

Yes, it's always part of dating with me :)

[LastNightmare]

pretty normal for guys

[Asker]

Thank you for the eye opener!

[LastNightmare]

yup, welcome

[RebeccaSJ]

Mmmm hmmm