I will make this very succinct to spare people the agony of reading an entire treatise of why my self-esteem is at a low ebb. My question is what is it about me that women seem to despise? As it stands I am 25 years old, a virgin who has never had any positive experience with women on any level-be it friends or anything beyond that. I have never had any physical relations with women, nor anything tangible save for small-talk which invariably ends awkwardly and it seems increasingly less likely. I attribute this partly to my schooling in junior/middle high school and the lack of co-education-which happened in senior high school (by which time I was very much set in my ways and was completely ill-equipped and oblivious to inter-gender relations and creating repartee's.)
I have been told (though I am cynical of the truth in this) that I am pleasing to look at, yet I have nothing to show for such alleged good looks (which are inconsequential anyway, personality is what matters), I have direction and ambition in my life (I have two degrees and am in law-school) and am uncompromising to that end. Yet for these I feel increasingly frustrated, ignored and unappreciated. Additionally, it appears my preferences in music etc. have alienated me (I happen to love death metal and the like but am nothing in the way of the caricatures you see who enjoy this music and so forth). I would appreciate some honest feedback about where I am letting myself down, and indeed, where I can improve myself to become more appealing (without of course undermining my integrity).
This malaise has completely undermined my confidence in myself and while I tried to put on a veneer of toughness/apathy, I am suffocating-any help, or insight would be very greatly appreciated.
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you can try taking some workshops or seminars like the art of charm etc they do a pretty good job in bringing out the best in guys like you by that I mean smart, goodlooking etc but still missing a little somethin something which is holding back your true potential, or if you don't want to do that, maybe you need some approaching techniques like nice flirting etc, don't sweat over being a virgin maybe the right girl hasn't come yet, I'm 22 and I'm a virgin but I'm holding back for religious reasons s o every1 has their own reasons, anyhu, don't change anything at all about yourself because someday you are gonna find someone who is gonna adore you for who you are, you just need some improvements here and there, I studied in a girls convent till I was 16 and I know it felt awkward when I joined a co ed highschool but I managed to have good friendships with guys. and girls just love accomplished and ambitious guys so you having 2 degress, goals and dreams would be a problem only for insecure kinda girls who think that maybe you have uber high standards so maybe they don't bother asking you out.1