I recently was out with a friend and totally hit it off with a guy she knew. He was slow to warm up, but I was very interested in learning about him and directed most of the conversation around his life. After this he followed me around the rest of the night. He asked if he could walk me to my car at the end of the night and I agreed. I could tell he was nervous and when he asked for a goodnight kiss, I responded by planting a warm affectionate kiss on him and then gently pulled away. He was grinning ear to ear! And as I got in my car, he asked with a very shaky voice if he could have my number. We swapped numbers, and I was thrilled! I loved the fact that he was more on the shy side and soft spoken. It never dawned on me that 9 days would go by without so much as a word from him!I tend to live by the theory that if he's not calling then he's just not that into you... But I simply cannot accept that this time around. The mistake I feel I potentially could have made was adding him to Facebook. He accepted, but still, no communication. I am stumped by this one. Help!
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Mistake, adding someone on face book? are you serious? who cares. Its the internet.
Look, if you really want there are companies out there that sell people "friends" to be added to face book. You can get like a thousand friends or something for a cost. I don't know how much cause I don't care. The point its, who gives a damn. If you are judging someone or anyone on their face book status... something is seriously screwed up with you.
Anyways, You are not bad to look at so I'm sure he's just nervous or shy. He may just think that he doesn't have a shot with you and why bother to call.
Let me tell you this, when I was younger about 10 years ago before I knew how to be social, I went to a club, which was one of the first times I had ever been to one.
There was this girl, and she was a model, were talking perfect body, perfect face... stunning in every way possible.
I was standing on the dance floor minding my own business and she looks at me, smiles, and then starts walking over to me.
I then proceeded to start moving away.
Then she started moving closer.. the whole time smiling at me. And the whole time, I'm trying to avoid eye contact. (I was so nervous I couldn't believe it.. if my sweat were bullets it would have been a massacre.)
Eventually she kept moving closer and asked "will you PLEASE dance with me?" I said ok... nervously and stood there while she danced in front of me and I walked off... the SECOND the song was over. I saw her a few years later and had my way with her sexually... but that's not the point.
The point is, sometimes guys will do things like not even bothering to show interest at all, if he thinks he doesn't stand a chance. Your not super hot mind you, but you are hot enough that he may be thinking that.
You may try and contact him through face book since its a little more safe for him to talk.
He can feel safe cause he's hiding behind a computer screen.
Try contacting him through face book or via email, or some kind of internet messaging thing.
If you call him, he's just going to be nervous as hell so I don't recommend that. (he'd be flattered as hell, but tongue tied, and he's probably going to feel like an ass.)
Im pretty sure he probably thinks you don't like him. After all, when many guys realize that they are nervous around a girl, they assume they blew it. Because women want the confident, self assured man. Not the shy ones.
Plus you pulled away.
Go the internet route. He needs to know you like him.
Dont worry this won't make you a slut if you do, and yes he will still respect you.