I have been dating a guy for a couple weeks. We had sex once. I have asked him to my house a couple times and he came over once when it was convenient for him. He sent me a text on Wednesday that he would call me "later". No call. He sent me a text first thing yesterday that he wanted to call me last night...no call. Today I sent him a text that said "hi how are you?" He said he was very busy. I said "OK, then perhaps he could call me later?" He said "i will call you soon". What is that supposed to mean?
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Believe it or not, this is guy-speak for "he might be interested in you"... So, the whole thing comes down to how men and women are so very different from each other.
For instance, when a woman says "I will call you", this usually means later that night, or by the next day at the latest.
When a man says "I will call you", it means before we die.
We don't mean to throw mixed signals, we're just stupid jackasses that don't know how to communicate properly. (The ones that are great communicators are gay, by the way. They are also he men that have seemingly effortless fashion sense). All straight men, like me, like to drink beer, watch games involving violence or ground acquisition, and we are enthralled with you ladies. It's one of the reasons we can't communicate that well with you - because you're a total enigma to us. Cars? Yeah, I got that covered. Lawns? Got that, too. Women? Hell no!
I would take the fact that he texted you as a good sign. Trust me, if a guy is truly not interested in you, you would never hear from him... not one call, not one note, not even a text.
He doesn't sound like a player, he just sounds like he needs a little help communicating. To be honest, to me it sounds like he does like your company, he just doesn't seem to sure about "how much".
Don't feel bad, right before we got married, my wife actually had to tell me to "just stop talking and kiss me, you dope. I didn't come over here to talk". Like I said... we really just don't know how to "read" you ladies at all.2