Do men appreciate women who apologize?

Question

I recently said and did some things that hurt my mans feelings. We haven't talked about it. It happened yesterday but I feel bad. I want to apologize but dont want to bring it up if he doesn't want to talk about it. I dont want to be a nag about it yet, I want him to know Im sincere. I was thinking of saying sorry with a gift (maybe some food). Do I apologize in person? Do I bring a gift? Do I not say anything at all. It was nothing major or serious but I can't help thinking that what I did hurt his feelings. Do men appreciate women who can admit when they are wrong? Should I give him some time to cool off or apoligize now. he's a great guy. All he ever does is work, think about us (his family) and never really complains about anything. Just curious how I should approach him. Thanks.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

1. In person. Treat this as if it is important because. . . it is!

2. No gift. You are not trying to buy his forgiveness!

3. The three words that can save a relationship are "I was wrong."

"I have thought about what happened yesterday and I want you to know that I realize I was wrong. What I did hurt your feelings and I can't undo the harm, but I can promise you that I will try to be a better person. And I will have forgiveness in my heart if you ever do something unintentionally that hurts me. . . because I hope you will have forgiveness for me."

JSmith925 · Accepted Answer

Gosh, I appreciate ANYONE who can stand up and apologize. And I do it anytime I think it is warranted. ~JSmith

RJGraveyTrain · Accepted Answer

This is the time where women need to find their hypothetical nutsack.

Apologize. To his face. No gifts. No gimmicks. Time to say: "Listen, I realize what I did yesterday was fucked up and not right. I understand if you don't want to talk about it but I need you to know that I'm sorry, and that I love you."

Period. He'll appreciate it.

LostGirl08 · Accepted Answer

say your sorry then show him that you mean it. like cook his favorite food or surprise him at work with food. just anything that can show him that you mean it because sometimes, words are just words. men appreciate women who owns up to their mistakes. not everyone does that.

SteppingOnRoses · Accepted Answer

I think a sincere spoken apology is the way to go :)

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

Yes, we do like it.
Yes, it makes us feel powerful.

The problem is that you seem to be confusing it with "BOOM!! LEARN YA PLACE BITCH!!!" In reality, it's not like that at all.

While it is true that a guy will feel a rush of power and security after his girl apologizes to him, it's almost never in that domineering and superiority-complex inducing sense.

See, the powerful feeling comes from the fact that his girl was serious enough about the relationship that she was willing to put aside her pride and own up. After all, would she have done such a thing if she saw him as a weak boyfriend?

When you apologize to a guy after a fight, you're basically saying that you trust him to be able to responsibly make you his. You're saying that the bond you two share is more important to you than, say, having bragging rights for the next time you and your friends have "Bitch Gossip Hour" ((or whatever you call it)).

And in a time when bragging rights over things like that seem to come before everything else, that feeling is sexy as fuck.

rjroy3 · Answer

Yes and no.

I don't appreciate people who JUST apologize. Because in a lot of ways an apology isn't really about it. It's about how they feel and wanting to feel better. That way for them to feel better is for you to give them something, which is forgiveness. I mean, it's a step up from saying sorry as a way to get out of trouble. Because at least a remorseful apology is somewhat about you as well, instead of just themselves.

But what I appreciate are people who give a real apology + do something to make it right after the fact. Because doing something to make up for it is entirely about the person they hurt and making that person feel better. Rather than yourself. Because once the apology is accepted the person who did the wrong doing has already received that relief. Taking it a step further to make it right is respectable.

Justinaveragedude · Answer

Apologize in person, a gift should NOT be given as an apology, you do not want us to feel that you are buying is off. You are sorry, that is good, admit that you did something wrong and apologize. Do not try to justify or rationalize what you said or did and why, that makes it more of an "i'm not sorry, I just feel bad you where upset." Be genuine, open, honest, and after let him know he is appreciated.

Guys really respect a woman who can apologize, we appreciate it when a woman can admit she was wrong. If everyone man or women could do that the world would be a better place.

HSPGuy · Answer

Absolutely yes. In my opinion, the best way to apologize is in person and directly, no gifts needed. And if that apologize comes with a reminder of how much you love him, then it's perfect, you'll be a keeper.

godfatherfan · Answer

unfortunately most women are not truly sincere. they just apologize without meaning it and that is worse then not saying anything. But if it is sincere, sure.

hahahmm · Answer

If you keep doing something bad, words become meaningless. Say sorry ONCE. But don't do it again. No gift required

NaultD · Answer

You could apologize with a game plan to make things better and what you learned from the experience.

Ceege · Answer

I once tried to apologize in person, he didn't even come out to talk lol.. i let two voicemails, i text.. nothing.. there ws no cheating or abuse involve we just got into an argument.. sometimes men can be very very cruel when a woman wants to apologize and take accountability. be careful

Browneye57 · Answer

A BJ would work better.  I always say, don't say or do ANYTHING EVER that you have to apologize for.

Rohn7 · Answer

Damn did you insult his pecker or something? And of course men appreciate women who apologize

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes i appreciate women who apologize. Just a simple apology is what matters the most to me.

matheus_mb · Answer

Yes, I would appreciate it very much. You don't need to bring a gift, just be honestly and say what needs to be said. A clear message.

dionyxes · Answer

yea I left my last girlfriend because she would never say sorry

Anonymous · Answer

A woman who can actually admit she was wrong and apologize for it is like a fucking unicorn. Just do it... straight forward with no gimmicks... he will appreciate it and respect you more for it.

Arya_Christ · Answer

Just apologize. Plain and simple face to face apology with feelings rather than a gift would be amazing.

ScottSummers · Answer

yeah i love women who are able to take responsibility for their action and apologize when they think they are wrong. no need for food or gift or whatever just a simple *sorry* is enough.

peanutbutter_bae · Answer

I can not take someone who doesn't. own up to your mistake. apologize. and stand up for when you think you need to be apologized too. it's the most attractive thing ever.

jp612612 · Answer

I'm not sure, I've never experienced this. I don't believe women ever apologize! ;-)

Kiels01 · Answer

Never met a woman who would admit she's wrong, id probably faint if a woman apologised to me!

OlderGuy965 · Answer

Absolutely, men DO appreciate it when you admit to being wrong. Hopefully he'll be the same if he wrongs you.

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