Prostitution VS Dating.. Which is better?
With prostitution, the guy gets what he wants, and the girl gets what she wants. 1. There's no game playing, you never think to yourself "does he or... Show More
Obviously getting the sex for free from a girlfriend is better. That's why its vs dating, not relationships.
Most Helpful Opinion
Prostitution is cheeper and girls are more honest about their sexuality.
In the other hand dating involves a lot of bush*t, judgement, misstreatment and humilliation from the girl until she decides to have sex with you which at this point you are already massively turn off.
So prostitution is better.
What Girls Said 40
The only reason men get into relationships is to get sex for free.
if I knew a guy went out with a prostitute I would definitely not date him...for hygeinic reasons...oh burn...I'm 'sorry'.
Well, it seems to me that you're assuming the only goal men have is to have sex, and that all women expect men to pay for everything. Both of these things are untrue. If you're only interested in sex, then maybe a prostitute is a good option for you. As you've mentioned, a relationship offers additional things, such as an emotional connection, love, companionship, good conversation, a partnership when it comes to finances, housework, child-rearing (depending on how serious your relationship is).
In all of the relationships I've had, I do not expect my partner to pay for everything. In the beginning of the relationship, we usually go dutch, or one person pays for one date, the other pays for the next. When the relationship becomes more serious, we pretty much always take turns paying for dates (since its easier than splitting the bill). Now that I live with my partner, we split rent, and he might pay some bills and I'll pay others, so its essentially even (i.e. I pay for internet/cable, he pays for our cell phones). Things don't have to be exactly 50/50--we kind of play it by ear, depending on who has more money. When I was in school, he paid the majority of the bills. When he was in school, I did. I make more money than him, but that doesn't matter to us--we're building a life together, so essentially any money we make is "our" money (we still have the freedom to spend our own money on the things we want, but if it's a large purchase, we make the decision about it together). This has been typical of all my relationships.
To answer your questions: Yes, I will date a man who is broke (as long as its not simply because he's lazy and won't get a job). Yes, I will date a man who doesn't pay for the dates. And I'm cool if he wants to take me to taco bell--I think it's unreasonable to expect someone to spend more than their means, and if I'm dating someone, it's because I want to spend time with them, not because I want them to take me out to the most expensive places.
As far as sex is concerned, we don't believe that sex is a commody that needs to be earned. We have sex with each other because we want to. We both have healthy sex drives, so we have sex fairly often. I don't "reward" my partner for doing chores around the house--it's OUR home, so we both do the chores that need to be done. I don't withhold sex as a form of "punishment". Sex is completely separate from those things.
I think the reason why a lot of women want to wait a bit before having sex isn't because they want you to pay for or "earn" it, but rather, they don't want to be treated like a prostitute. They want a guy who actually likes them and is interested in a relationship with them, not just taking them on enough dates so that the woman is obliged to have sex with him. They also realize that, while it's a completely unfair double standard, a lot of guys lose respect for a girl, or decide they only want to have sex with her (not a relationship) if she has sex with them "too soon
Anyone who has to pay for sex or does it by choice is pathetic to Mr. I don't think less of them but I do see it as pathetic.
If all a guy wants is sex, then you shouldn't be dating and pretending like you want a relationship to begin with. Have a drunken one-night stand when you can get them or shell out the money for a prostitute if you live near legalized prostitution, or masturbate.
When you are actually ready to meet someone and have a relationship, well join the club with the rest of us, men and women alike, who get frustrated with dating and get tired of dating people we don't hit it off with and do things that drive us crazy. Stop spending $100 on dates in hopes of getting laid. Dating should be about meeting someone you would want a relationship with, not about counting the $$ and meet-ups necessary to have sex. If you go on a date or two and there is just no connection there, don't go on date three. Save your $$. Look for someone new until you find the one that works for you.
depends if you want intimacy or not..id say gf
if you're dating just to get laid then a prostitute is better.
if you want to find a connection with someone and eventually a relationship, then dating is better.
it all depends what you want.
Fine, go get some whores. Most girls looking for a relationship wouldn't touch your kind anyway.
I understand where you are coming from but I think there are a few things that don't add up to me.
1) If you use the logic that all women are closet prostitutes, wanting to exchange sex for money, you can use the same logic to say all men are really just closest John's wanting to pay women for sex. So why be upset? In this logic all women want money for sex and all men want to give their money for sex so everyone wins.
2) Dating and prostitution aren't really comparable because the desired result is different. Dating isn't just used to get sex. It's also used to develop relationships. Meaning the people who are dating don't just want sex. If someone wants just sex they go for just hook ups and hopefully that will only cost you a drink. Comparing dating and prostitution is like comparing a restaurant making your food to having your mom make your food. Sure you may have to pay more money in the long run for mom (like taking care of her when she is older) but there are a few things mom has to offer over a restaurant.
3) You are talking about prostitution like it is a good thing but then you use it as a slur against women by saying they act like "whores". You can't talk up prostitution as a legitimate thing and then insult people who act like those in the profession. It's like saying slavery is a great thing but then saying child labor is like slavery and it's completely awful. If prostitution is good, then it's completely OK for anyone to act like a prostitute. Even if she doesn't say she is. You can't have it both ways. You can't say prostitutes are good woman but women that act like them are bad.
4) Prostitution would be a valid alternative if most people didn't care that the person that sleeps with them doesn't like them. Prostitutes aren't humanitarians. They think their John's are morons that they can sexual manipulate. One of my friends grew up in a neighborhood that had lots of prostitutes in it. He doesn't use prostitutes. He is actually a hopeless romantic who wants love and commitment after growing up seeing what the other option is. You aren't going to see that on some documentary cause they want the John's to come back to the whore house. But prostitutes spend a lot of time laughing at their John's. Prostitutes actually have really, really big mouths (no pun intended). Some of the most shocking stuff I've ever learned was from a girl who was a former prostitute who was talking about her John's. And she wasn't retelling the stories with admiration.
So disgusted. Completely disgusted.
Sex for sex's sake? Yes, pros are better... even better is online p*rn...yeah you do it yourself but it's completely free!
So what was the question, really? Because it can't be that simple...
I think its hilarious that your comparing prostitution to dating. There is obviously a big difference. It all has to do with emotions. If your doing a prostitute you have not feelings for them and your pretty despite for sex considering that your paying for it. If your dating someone your interested and connected.
with dating you get the real thing. love. relationship between equals.
with prostitute you get to break the rules of ethics, and help a woman destroy her life.
You should have to pay a lot for girls when you go out if all you want to do is have sex. For you I'd say prostitution is better because all you want is sex. Nothing meaningful.
And to "So, unless you want men to date you, stop acting like whores, because were just going to go there instead of dating you. Because at least with them its a sure thing."
If all you want is sex you're a slut. I'd much rather be a whore (though I'm not) than a slut. Atleast they get paid.
Anyways, I'd rather date.
ok well I'm not so tightly wound as some of the girls on here I see your point, I for one would quite happily be paid 300 bucks to sleep with a guy no strings attathed if only you could be sure he never had any std's. I suppose I don't know what the guys at the bar have either when I decide to go home with them but I know I'm clean before anyone decides to write a "funny" comment! I would say prostitution BUT I couldn't do it, I mean sleep with just about anyone, no thanks some men are just nasty! I want to fall in love and the only way to do that is by dating someone, so for me ill choose dating but that's just my preferance.
It's too bad that you feel this way.
There is a lot more to relationships than sex. And I would hope that someone who is special to you would mean more than how much you spend on them.
But... I do hope that you choose prostitutes over dating, because you're a chauvinist and - though no woman deserves that - at least sex workers expect it.
I guess if you JUST want the sex and don't want somebody to love you then the prostitute is your better choice. Then when you get to the point in your life that you want someone to grow old with and someone that will love you and be around unconditionally then get a relationship. Simple!
Correction, in prostitution the girl gets what she NEEDS, she doesn't "want" you she needs your money for her house and sh*t.
I would date a man who was broke, then again I'd make my own money but even so if I didn't I would as long as I loved him.
I think dating is better, emotional connections and friendship bring more into a person's life than just sex. I mean who the hell feels "refreshed" and altogether "wholesome" after screwing a prostitute?
And just for the record, most women don't act like whores. If anything the men can't stop their raging hormones so much that they go to the whores. Not our problem if you can't get a decent women for real sex. Oh I'm sorry I just read down the comments and realized you're gay. . .that's even nastier considering the increased risk in HIV. Oh well, my point is that prostitution doesn't really do anything but a moment of pure horny rage, so I vote dating as better even if it isn't statistically more cost effective, then again you'd have to figure how many times you go to a prostitute in a certain amount of time vs in how many times you go out in dating for a complete assessment.
oh lord your point of view is so strange. You sir seem to have a very negative view of women. This isn't so much of a question as it is a rant. Maybe its you that needs to start looking for different kinds of women, and check your attitude towards them when you wonder why they aren't all gushy towards you. Users get used, its the nature of karma.
Not all girls are about the money. I make more money than my husband and we share everything down to the penny. So I have 70 bucks and he has 50 bucks; we get 60 bucks each. It's like me giving him 10 extra bucks. I don't feel like I'm losing. I love him.
My closest friend dated this guy for years, he has no degree, no money and no full-time job. She's an IT specialist working at a University. She's still with him and hopelessly in love. I know a few other girls who are still sticking to their high school sweethearts who were "ex-badboy gangsters", but now still live with their mom with no income, no hope for a decent job.
I don't think these guys are cheap or don't deserve someone. I think it's amazing for someone to be so in love with someone else!
I admit it's rare. People around me judge EVERYTHING, but you shouldn't give up looking for love.
Girls can feel it when a guy wants to see them just to get in their pants. It feels icky. Don't do it. You don't like girls who go out with you to just to get a free meal and movie!
if all you want is sex than I guess a prostitute is the way to go I guess but you seen like an asshole seriously like some female really hurt you and if that is true than I am sorry but deal with it
If sex, is all you want on a date, why not just be honest about it with the girl, instead of stringing her along and spending your money? You're just as guilty. Because they way you're explaining this, is you just want sex out of a date. No emotional attachment or interest in the girl. So if sex is what you seek, get a hooker or be honest with your date. Quit complaining on how expensive a date is.
dating is more rewarding in the end. if you want something amazing then you need to put in the hard yards first. even the prostitutes who say that they love their job, deep down want this.
1. I don't see anything wrong with prostitution, if it's 2 adults, who am I to tell them who to sleep with ? And there is no game playing so if what you want is just sex at the time, then go for it.
2. Monthly checks don't say much, I mean what if she just had her check up, then caught an std 3 days later and slept with you the next day ? Plus prostitutes sleep with A LOT of men and if you think your chances of getting an std are lowered , that's kind of crazy
3. Why do you think only men make the money ? And have you ever heard of a pre-nup ?
4. If you are only going out with a girl because you want her p*ssy on layaway then you should just stick to prostitutes because I'm not going out with a guy just for his d*ck or for a free dinner, I can buy my own dinner and I pay for myself when I go to movies with friends, so if you're not going on a date with a girl so that you can get to know her so it possibly turns into a relationship then please just stick to paying for prostitutes and leave us females alone.
5. a) If I was married I wouldn't put out to get my husband to do chores, he's grown he should be cleaning up after himself anyway, I'm not his mother.
b) I wouldn't care if a man did'n't have a lot of money, I work and take care of myself his money is not my business, as is mine none of his business also but I do expect him to have a job and hopefully aspirations for the future.
c) I like taco bell
So to answer your question normal men that are looking for an emotional connection or love and not a p*ssy on layaway should date.
Men like you on the other hand who generalize all women and obviously have some mommy issues, please just stick to prostitutes because real women don't want you anyway
Of course dating is better...
This guy is obviously very bitter and has no clue about emotion, love, or connecting with someone. Since it is apparent that you are only interested in sex with total disregard to what the woman may be feeling or wanting out of dating you it serves you right to be stepped on anyway.
...I can't answer.It's like comparing a golden brick to a pile of sh*t. In case you were trolling, hurray you've got a reaction, good for you...yay...! In case you were not, you have a really bad opinion about women which is based on prejudice.It's really sad and pathetic in my opinion and I can't change such a narrow minded sexist opinion.No offense.
Personally I don't need a guy to buy anything for me.I'm capable of buying things on my own.Maybe you like dating women just for the sex part,so that means you have never experienced having feelings towards them or the other way around...Anyway...Good luck with your life...
for you prostitution is better for normal men its not, so go ahead run along to the bunny ranch one less asshole for women who respect themselves to deal with
Not everyone spends money on dates, not everyone has sex on dates.
SOME people like each other &continue dating the same person.
Or at least actually want to get to know the person they are dating, even if its just once.
For some people THAT is the purpose.
Yea well, if sex is your aim for dating, then now you are correct.
DATING FOR SEX PROSTITUTION FOR SEX- not much difference at all .
Sounds like you got it all worked out.
Have fun drive, fuc* safe, be safe & leave all the 'non' - sociopaths a lone -- The world will be a better place for it :)
dude...u have a seriously warped view of women and dating. I don't date guys for money or free stuff. in fact, I pay for ALL MY OWN FOOD AND TICKETS AND STUFF when I go on dates. he can pay for himself like he would if he were alone. we just chill and have fun. sex comes later when we fall in love. because that's what sex is for. the ONE person you will LOVE AND BE COMMITTED TO FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. and no one else.
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What Guys Said 39
Ok, Deal! You'll go after the hookers, I'll stay with my wife.
In the modern US, I"d say the difference between dating and protituton is very slight; the more honest women admit that..
I find both to be rather pointless.
Prostitution all they way!
its like what Charlie Sheen once said, "i dont pay them for sex i am paying them to leave". so with that said i rather be with a prostitute because with a prostitute you will always get what you pay for and not worried about attachments afterwards. lets not forget that with a prostitute you are always bound to get what you want right away as you dont need to "sweet talk", buy drinks or put a prostitute in the mood for her to give you what you want.
with a date in the other hand is a total drag as you have to sweet talk her, take her out to dates, buy her drinks, etc just so in the end she will either not leave you alone, stalk every where you go, sabotage your plans in life, and the list goes on!
Dating/relationship z better...simple
Haha I do see your point. it would obviously depend on what you are looking.
Some people want an emotional connection as well which you can't buy. Like you said there is does she like me or not. If you are looking for just sex a prostitute might be good.
But if you want emotional sex and a relationship your better off taking the other road.
Well I have never or never will pay a chick for sex, however I do see where you coming from. In the long run dating is better, because your not going to spend 300 every time you see your girlfriend, and say you see a hooker 4 times a month, that's already over a grand right there, so why waist your money on sex when you could have saved a grand and bought something you wanted?
I couldn't agree more with you. I am not even bad looking, but I'm kinda broke. Its been harder for me to get a date than before. Most women are prostiutes, I know some girls will bash me for saying this, but the same ones that would criticize me, would not date a guy who makes less money than they do, or who wants to pay evenly at the movie dinner etc. which proves my point
You're not actually suppose to date women only for sex...
Not taking this topic seriously, lets do a slight economic analysis..
sex= £1000 (cash)
sex + loyality > £1000 (dates..)
Everyguy is willing to have sex with anygirl; If we are to put a monetary figure on loyality, e,g the cost of raising a child... we would realize that its cheaper to have a Girlfriend than a prostitute..
Even with DNA tests, the price of loyality is still high because of our ego and need to be the "only one she is having sex.. with"
Prostitute is better because you get what you want and you don't have to face foolishness.
Firstly, I don't think you can seperate "dating" from "relationships", because most normal people date with the intention of getting into a relationship.
The shallow, insecure people you're talking about may not be thinking long term, so in their case, yes, a prostitute will probably be better.
It really sounds like you're just using this question to spit out a bitter rant against women. You ask like 3 questions in one.
1. How many women will accept a man that doesn't pay for a date?
Before my girlfriend was my g/f, more often than not she paid. She wouldn't even hear of me paying, I had to sneak the check to pay when I could.
2. Women "put out" to get men to do chores.
No, this is just wrong. Women put out because they enjoy sex just like we do. It's a natural thing - like eating or sleeping, we enjoy those things because they're hard-wired into us. Yes, I know it's shocking to think that women have desires as well, but get over it. They're human too.
What's funny is the first date my girlfriend and I went on was for shakes at Jack in the Box and then a walk in the park. 3x of that would total somewhere around $18. Further, my girlfriend lives about 50 miles from me and it doesn't cost me $20 round trip. What the hell are you driving, an aircraft carrier?
4. Dating is more expensive.
I have NEVER NEVER NEVER been on a date that cost $100, and I've been dating for what, 17 years now. Even factoring in driving and what not. Never once. So, your highly generalized math is rediculous. I've dated girls when I was completely flat broke living at my mom's place and I've dated girls since I've started making cash and I have my own flat. Your argument might be true for you, but for most of the guys I know, they can get dates whether they have a fiver in their pocket or a swimming pool full of cursed gold coins, doesn't matter.
5. "She gets half your money".
Now you're talking about marriage, not dating, when you specifically said you're talking about dating, not relationships. Stop changing your argument to make your rediculous point.
Bottom line, if your goal is just sex, sex, sex, then yes, getting a prostitute or a GFE makes sense. If your goal is spending time with another human being, regardless of whether you get sex or not, then dating is the answer, cos a prostitute won't give a crap about you other than the money you're throwing at her. You're just as well off buying a blow-up doll - you're basically paying someone to let you use their body to masturbate, that's how much emotional connection you're getting out of it. More power to you, in that instance.
When you look at it closely, when you're dating a woman you are indirectly paying for sex.
You figure, 3 dates of dinner, movies, shows, and on the thrid date the girl sleeps with you. Add it up and you spent maybe 200-400 to hang out with this person three times so you could get laid.
Valentine's day: you buy chocolates, jewelry, dinner, whatever else, and for what? To get laid.
The negative with hookers is that they are openly dirty pigs. Higher risk of catching an STD or even worse AIDS. You might get what you want and even more.
My friend, I suggest you invest into a rubber doll.
haha, good question man..I bet Charlie Sheen contemplates this on a daily basis too!...anyways, I think it comes down to this: with a ho, you won't get the emotional attachment, the love or the girlfriend experience, just mindless sex.
I love sex as much as the next guy but that's not enough for me, I want more, I want her to care about me on some level, not necessarily love but care...this is where the argument for a prostitute is lost on me...I would take a regular girl, even with the bitchiness that time of month and all the blah-blah-blah talk and stuff, just because she will also give me her heart...that's crucial...I want her heart, not just her pu**y...
After reading some comments, I got your point and yes, if we compare things just plain and simple, prostitution might look better than dating. But still, having a girlfriend beats prostitution, just because of the time you spend with your girlfriend. Let's say you live with your girlfriend and/or lives near her, you guys can have sex like what? 3-4 days a week if not everyday (I will not get deep in this subject because it involves people's sex drive and other stuff too..) but yea, lets say 3 times a week, then it gets cheaper than getting a hooker. Imagine you getting a hooker 3 times a week? It would be 900 bucks in just one week...
My conclusion: prostitution might look better than dating, but we need the dates to actually get a girlfriend and solve the problem.
(obviously dating/relationships have more things involved than just sex, but I think you guys will get the point...)
There's SO much more to enjoy with girls than just sex. Girls, I can assure you that we're not all like this. I for one think prostitution is disgusting. :)
Which do I think is better? Well, I can't cuddle with a prostitute. Well I can, but that costs extra =/.
No really, this question is really funny to me.
As a guy, you end up paying for sex one way or another. Buying movie tickets and dinner is the same as paying cold hard cash to a hooker.
Its all prostitution, and most women are prostitutes. If they weren't, they would not require money being spent on them in order for the guy to get the reward
girl friend is homely flesh. prostitutes are like public toilet, unhygenic.
The saying around here is why beg for it when you can pay for it...
Dating is the exact same as prostitution, except you are gambling with a pay out or not and its more expensive.
since I m a 29 year old virgin and on the verge of settleing for prostitites.
I d say prostitution is better
It's like comparing home made vs at a restaurant. Home made is imperfect and you do pay with your daily work which some times can be a lot but there is care and you can get an extra piece if you are still hungry. Restaurants will present the food better, sometimes taste great but care less if you are still hungry and want you to pay and leave the premises to allow other customers in. I have no access to home made so I will go to the restaurant. It's the only way to calm down my desire for sex. The women in my environment are too rough, materialistic and picky. Maybe one day...
Sounds to me that you are very angry and you are a cheap ass
Prostitution is VILE. Boy, we act as if we're nuttin but beasts...as if the soul and emotions don't even exist.
Preferably, something along the lines of dating. This is because it's legal.
A Girl wants to get married. A guy wants to have sex.
Dating is a game where a girl and/or a guy could win it.
You choose to take her to an expensive restaurant. You could just take her on a date in a park.
Man is a hunter and only looser pays to get for he wants. A good hunter would walk 1000 miles after the grizzly bear and kill him when he could just buy a dead/in a cage bear for a much cheaper price.
What is a satisfaction of paying for sex? 30 minutes?
What about the satisfaction of meeting a real love of your life?
- At least a couple of years.
Prostitutes are the most disgusting thing on the planet. Just the thought of sticking my C ock in basically a tube of a mix of STD's is, well horrifyig is not even enough of a word. I wouldn't use a prostitue with my best friends d ick.
This is actually clever. People are hacking it with their emotional prejudice, which you kinda take for granted. But like you keep saying - this isn't relationships vs. prostitution, this is dating vs. prostitution. But you gotta look at that mathmatically. From a human perspective, you start dating in the hope of finding someone you will fall in love with and so on, fulfilling the inbuilt and unexplained desire to connect completely and permanently with another human, and from the same perspective, you hire a prostitute so you can stick the shaft in her, like, basically. But from a mathmatical perspective, you aren't focused on an endgoal.
Logically, you enter into something - assuming your dating an alltaking woman which is fairly common in America I hear (its not really common where I am, though, but that's because no one actually has any money regardless of who they are, you know what I mean? Hahaha), because everythings fairly common in America - in which you have to pay a sum of money, in exhange for some kind of product. We're not giving that product a name of any kind.
Now in dating, many times your left with no product - ie. no further relationship, emotional connection or sex. Or even like, helpful cleaning tips, or an extended television liscence, or anything. Right? Nothing. But you've still payed all that money. Now from a human perspective, you expect that. But mathmatically, that's a major WTF. That's a huge risk right there. That's a probably of like 1 (or 2, depending on your disposition.) That's crazy.
However, in prositution, you pay, assuming the afformentioned amounts are correct, about the same. But with prostitution, a product is guaranteed. Mathmatically, that's the more intellegent choice. Isn't it?
Ofcourse we don't date for the same reason we hire out ladiez, but logically that's not assumed.There's a sum in there somewhere its like
Prostiution: M + F = X
Dating: M + F = ?
Money, Female, Product, in this scenario.
?:1, in ratio terms. Or 9:1, if you wanna go by that rule, but I think that's long dead, ain't it? I'm not really a maths person.
Anyway, this jokes. Well done.
Oh by the way, on the idea that pimped prostitutes shouldn't be used because they've got terrible lives, that's a bit whacked out an idea. If we're all kindred souls we'd be using them more, I mean if they don't sell they probably get thrashed around, don't they? Or they don't get their cocaine and get a serious case of the horrors. Its not like if we all decide not to use street harlots they'll all suddenly get better lives, you know? Effectively it'd just add to the unemployment, cost the country more money - assuming this country grants dole - and you'd have hundreds of cracked girls starving on the streets. But your right, you know, about how scarred those girls are left. I know, like, its wild.
Prostitution vs Dating ? thts a terrible mismatch. The point of prostitution is for you to have sex. The point of dating, is not sex, it is to bond with her. And I guess you've only gone out with gold-diggers, because not all girls want you to spend a lot on dates.
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