girls: do you ask?
Do you allow your gf/wife to wear revealing clothing?
girls: do you ask?
She doesn't do it.
Ever since we have been in a relationship, she has understood that if she wears revealing clothing, we both know that it is for attention. Not attention from me, not attention from girls.
It's for attention from guys. Yes, a feminist might be really mad at me for saying this, but women don't just feel happier wearing ass-tight leggings or short-shorts that go up to their groin.
Then comes the frequent adjustments, where they pull up their leggings or short shorts, and make sure that they either wear a top short enough to see everything...
Then comes the cleavage and the chest...
My girlfriend just does not do it. I am so so happy about it too, because it would frankly make me pretty upset to see her walking around in a see-through T-Shirt (Sarcasm).
Obviously it's a given that nobody should control what you wear, but I think it shows a lot of good faith to ask your significant other. All these girls get super offended about a guy "controlling" you, but it's a give and take for both parties in terms of affects on the others life. If a guy is uncomfortable with his significant other wearing something, it's only the right thing to do to not wear it. If it's such a big problem, maybe that relationship won't work out, or the two need to talk about the issue. But asking is SUCH a nice thing to do, and while I wouldn't require it, I'd appreciate it (though I'd rather be with a girl who wouldn't need to ask because they don't wear those kinds of things)
"Allow" hahahahaha
If he ever told me I wasn't "allowed" to wear something I'd go and take another item of clothing off before leaving the house.
If he said what I was wearing made him uncomfortable though of course I would change into something less revealing. That rarely happens though, outside of cleavage and backless dresses I don't really wear revealing clothing
I never ask my boyfriends permission. Granted, I prefer not to wear clothing that's that revealing but if I wear something low cut, I don't ask permission. He doesn't own me, I don't need it. If he brought up an issue with it and asked me not to wear it, I'd at least consider it (though I know it doesn't other him) but I'm not gonna take being ordered to do something.
ALLOW? That word shouldn't even be an option. I don't really wear revealing clothing as it is besides maybe a shorter skirt or dress but who cares what I wear? The ONLY a person who gets to decide that is me. I wouldn't tell a guy what he is or isn't allowed to wear and if he tries to tell me that, it'd be a major red flag.
i'd ask if my boyfriend/husband showed some strong jealously or possessiveness in the past
otherwise, i'd watch for his reaction before we leave and if he's visually uncomfortable i wouldn't wear that stuff again, unless it was just the two of us
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I don't have a gf/wife, but it doesn't make much of a difference in my opinion. My boyfriend can wear whatever he wants, I would continue to be proud to have him by my side. Nobody would have to have my permission to dress themselves in a way that makes them feel good about themselves. If it's very unflattering though, I would definitely let them know though.
Do I ALLOW her? My wife would not need to ask for my permission to wear revealing clothing. However, she shouldn't expect me to be happy about it if she does that in public. If it's in the privacy of our own home, then she can wear whatever she wants (or nothing at all, if that's her preference).
I just wouldn't commit to someone like that in the first place. I don't want to try to change someone to fit my preferences. I would rather date someone who fits my preferences naturally through their own choices.
Fair... So what do you consider revealing?
Even if you're there with her?
So I'm al so assuming that you wouldn't date a feminist based on this?
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She can wear whatever she desired as long as it's no too revealing. I'm not gonna let my partner dress like a whore. Sorry. You gotta keep some class.
Not going to LET? lol so what would you do if she decided to wear it?
The girl I would date would have the decency to not wear something so revealing that I'd have to object. :).
I like girls who were beautiful dresses and be glamorous. But that's just a personal preference. :) .
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My wife doesn't go in for that. But she'd never ask my opinion about her clothes. I Never had a girl friend that asked my permission either!
Would you want them to ask permission?
No, not really. IT's their personal decision. I mean, I give fashion advice and feedback, but it's not like I have the right to tell them something is inappropriate because too revealing.
I will let them wear revealing clothes to an extent, but a far extent that won't happen. I won't like it but it's what she likes and I would like to make her happy and not upset.
My boyfriend doesn't control what I wear. I wear swimsuits like clothes in the summer and he doesn't say anything. He enjoys it.
No she doesn't.
She's an adult and she could take care of herself.
I will comment if it's inappropriate though - example would be wearing skimpy shorts on a job interview.
No, she doesn't have to ask permission.
She will ask my opinion, on occasion. She's got an excellent sense of what's appropriate when and where.
Allow is too heavy, it okay to ask how your SO feel about some clothes, but the decision is up to the person who is using it...
How are you supposed to surprise him if you have to ask
I would hope that she wouldn't wear it outside, but only for me. If she does, then she really isn't for me.
So what do you consider revealing? And how come you wouldn't want her to wear it outside if she's with you?
For me, a hem line that's more than half way above the distance between the distance between your knee and your vag / crotch.
A neckline that's too low is more difficult to describe (at least for me).
I'd be fine if she has the body for it and wants to show it off. It's just that for me, I don't want her to be attention seeking (it's a thin line in my opinion... plus I'd hope I was giving all the attention she needs). Plus, I know what men will think about (I'll admit it, I think about it as well, I just don't act on it.
And yes, I'd actually talk about this in the initial stages of dating her.
I'm her bf/husband, not her boss. she can wear whatever she wants. if she has the body to wear revealing clothes and turn heads, then I should be proud and not jealous
It wouldn't be up to me to tell a woman what to wear. She's her own person so she wouldn't have to ask permission.
Sometimes I ask him if a certain item is too booby or too leggy or if it makes me look bad. Most of the time he's OK with whatever I wear.
She can wear whatever she likes, whenever she likes.
Lol no I don't ask. Try and tell me what I can and can't wear and we're going to have SERIOUS problems
Having to ask what to wear doesn't sound like a good relationship to me so I hope I don't end up in one like that
I don't own my girlfriend. Lol, if she wants to wearing something revealing it's her choice. It's not like I won't appreciate it.
Yes, I do, this is not Saudi Arabia or other third world nations who still thinks it's the middle ages. It's her clothes
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