Good relationships require mutual attraction and benefits. The jerk/bitch is the person who thinks they can do better than who they are currently with, so they don't need to treat that person with respect... the doormat let's himself/herself get treated that way because they are desperate to be with that person.
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because nice guys don't pursue girls enough, you need to be aggresive and not so layed back...
if your the best of both worlds, like you pursue her if you want her but have your sweetheart moments too then you'll ALWAYS get the girl...keep her on her toes!.. your unpredictable attitude will drive her crazy, and she'll always be thinking about you...
cuz they make everything seem so right... like first few weeks they are so nice! or they appear when your at your desperate moments.
Thats why I like my guys a little mean, guys who are wayyy too nice raise suspicion for me and makes me wanna find out what's going on.
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sometimes its not our fault. I mean kinda yeah it is bu ta few times the guys tricked me into thinking he was nice and sweet but then after the first week turned out to be a crude jerk. so guys be yourself and don't lie. I always go for the nice ones :)
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When I dated a jerk, I dated him solely because he was kind to me at first and complimented me and had confidence and made me feel good about myself. Although he lied about the whole thing, those first things were what reeled me into his trap. And I stayed with him for a long time because whenever I'd get mad, he'd somehow figure out how to make me feel guilty about it until recently where I've quit caring now that we're broken up.
This question comes up all the time, and here's the solution to your problem, if you want to get laid become a jerk simple as that. Is it that hard to understand?
Have you ever considered looking for a single girl and leaving the girls who date 'jerks' alone? I mean yes, some girls don't know and end up dating a bad guy BUT there are probably many single other girls.
Sometimes we don't always know till its too late. I think all women have that instinct to try and "fix" the assholes. But the sooner we figure out that it's useless to "fix" people, the sooner we stop missing out on all the good guys.
yeah it really sucks. but I'll make sure the next one isn't a jerk. Some guys are just jerks because they are selfish and don't reflect on how they behave or say things right, so I've learnt to filter it out and try to get a nice guy next time.
Well I believe the reason is because girls don't have enough respect for themsleves so they end up with a loser. And they become one. Well see that will NEVER have to me because I want only the best. And I think better of myself then that.
because nice guys don't approach, they befriend. and jerks approach, disguised as the nice guy. the guy acts, the girl falls in love, by the time the guy shows his true colors, the girl is already invested/attached to the guy and its very hard to let go. that's basically it.
The interest is shown in the befriending, I do not see your point. What would I have to do, tell you to s--- my d---? Then I would just be a total asshole, not your perfect love. If you found kindness an attractive trait, this would not be an issue.
@mesonfielde ...When I get a friend vibe from a guy...that is where he stays...a friend...
@rocksongwriter...Yes we do...if we don,t know the guy...and he seems really nice and smooth (the good players act shy)..so we think your that sweet guy that actually took a chance and approached us even if you're usually shy...so you must be really into us...nywho...the good 'bad' guys know how to play the game!!!
there idiots lol jk. No its just the confidence factor. You know you can be a nice guy with out being shy. "A man without confidence always finds a way to lose."- From my boy Wayne Gretzky
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I totally fell in love with this guy when I was only 16, only because I didn’t know that he was a jerk. I trusted everything he said. He always knew what to say. It actually took me 3/4 years to get over him..yep true story! And I am 24 now. I can’t seem to trust anyone anymore. A lot of guys have approached to me, but I just can’t seem to find the deference between genuine real men and players .
I don’t think girls knowingly fall for jerks!
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There is always a nice girl out there who wants a nice guy in return.. She might not be the most beautiful or maybe she is kinda shy or something and get over looked because guys go the girls who go for the jerks and vice versa
this is a debate, question that will never end, the simple answer is that a lot of girls view nice/extremely friendly guys as being weak, being able to take advantage of them or walk over them
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Good relationships require mutual attraction and benefits. The jerk/bitch is the person who thinks they can do better than who they are currently with, so they don't need to treat that person with respect... the doormat let's himself/herself get treated that way because they are desperate to be with that person.
because nice guys don't pursue girls enough, you need to be aggresive and not so layed back...
if your the best of both worlds, like you pursue her if you want her but have your sweetheart moments too then you'll ALWAYS get the girl...keep her on her toes!.. your unpredictable attitude will drive her crazy, and she'll always be thinking about you...
you just need to learn how to balance the two...
so true! be sweet and bad boy at times
cuz they make everything seem so right... like first few weeks they are so nice! or they appear when your at your desperate moments.
Thats why I like my guys a little mean, guys who are wayyy too nice raise suspicion for me and makes me wanna find out what's going on.
sometimes its not our fault. I mean kinda yeah it is bu ta few times the guys tricked me into thinking he was nice and sweet but then after the first week turned out to be a crude jerk. so guys be yourself and don't lie. I always go for the nice ones :)
When I dated a jerk, I dated him solely because he was kind to me at first and complimented me and had confidence and made me feel good about myself. Although he lied about the whole thing, those first things were what reeled me into his trap. And I stayed with him for a long time because whenever I'd get mad, he'd somehow figure out how to make me feel guilty about it until recently where I've quit caring now that we're broken up.
This question comes up all the time, and here's the solution to your problem, if you want to get laid become a jerk simple as that. Is it that hard to understand?
Sadly enough I have to agree!
Unfortunately true, the worse I treat a girl the more she digs me. I don't know WHY?
Women just have to be hot and cute, that's all, nothing else in order for us guys to accept them, like, but us guys have to be more than that
You guy really disappoint me. Nothing but a bunch of punks
Have you ever considered looking for a single girl and leaving the girls who date 'jerks' alone? I mean yes, some girls don't know and end up dating a bad guy BUT there are probably many single other girls.
Sometimes we don't always know till its too late. I think all women have that instinct to try and "fix" the assholes. But the sooner we figure out that it's useless to "fix" people, the sooner we stop missing out on all the good guys.
yeah it really sucks. but I'll make sure the next one isn't a jerk. Some guys are just jerks because they are selfish and don't reflect on how they behave or say things right, so I've learnt to filter it out and try to get a nice guy next time.
Mostly it's just because the jerks get there first...confidance etc.
Also most girls love the whole jerk on the outside thing with the potential of "something more"
BUT WE WANT TO KNOW WHY THE LIKE THE JERK
Lots of girls like to believe they aren't ALL jerk, otherwise it may just be based on the physical oooor she may think she can't get any better.
Personally I prefer the more shy guys but each to their own :)
Well I believe the reason is because girls don't have enough respect for themsleves so they end up with a loser. And they become one. Well see that will NEVER have to me because I want only the best. And I think better of myself then that.
i am one of then nice girls that end up with the ass hole it is just we just don't know how to pick the right guy ...
i personally like a challange but I end up getting hurt at the end so that's where I mess up
Yet you know perfectly well how to reject the genuine nice guy!
because nice guys don't approach, they befriend. and jerks approach, disguised as the nice guy. the guy acts, the girl falls in love, by the time the guy shows his true colors, the girl is already invested/attached to the guy and its very hard to let go. that's basically it.
The nice guys befriend so the girl would approach. If the girl likes them, why don't they approach back? I don't get it, it just doesn't make sense!
Because most girls don't approach.
they need to see interest, and its the jerks that show interest at first.
anybody could befriend you, but if you want more, there's a certain way to go about it.
The interest is shown in the befriending, I do not see your point. What would I have to do, tell you to s--- my d---? Then I would just be a total asshole, not your perfect love. If you found kindness an attractive trait, this would not be an issue.
"jerks approach, disguised as the nice guy"
Do women really think jerks are nice guys at first?
@mesonfielde ...When I get a friend vibe from a guy...that is where he stays...a friend...
@rocksongwriter...Yes we do...if we don,t know the guy...and he seems really nice and smooth (the good players act shy)..so we think your that sweet guy that actually took a chance and approached us even if you're usually shy...so you must be really into us...nywho...the good 'bad' guys know how to play the game!!!
Obviously not. befriending does not mean interest.
and we don't know they are jerks. that is why it's "disguised"
there idiots lol jk. No its just the confidence factor. You know you can be a nice guy with out being shy. "A man without confidence always finds a way to lose."- From my boy Wayne Gretzky
I totally fell in love with this guy when I was only 16, only because I didn’t know that he was a jerk. I trusted everything he said. He always knew what to say. It actually took me 3/4 years to get over him..yep true story! And I am 24 now. I can’t seem to trust anyone anymore. A lot of guys have approached to me, but I just can’t seem to find the deference between genuine real men and players .
I don’t think girls knowingly fall for jerks!
There is always a nice girl out there who wants a nice guy in return.. She might not be the most beautiful or maybe she is kinda shy or something and get over looked because guys go the girls who go for the jerks and vice versa
honestly in my opinion.
Jerks are manly I like manly guys who I feel safe around
Be nice when it comes to respect but be a man as well.
Because many of them haven't found ME yet! Mwah ha ha!
nice guys don't finish last, guys without confidence finish last and a lot of times the nice guy has a lack of confidence
this is a debate, question that will never end, the simple answer is that a lot of girls view nice/extremely friendly guys as being weak, being able to take advantage of them or walk over them