Hello, thank you for taking time to answering this
first of all, I want to kind of explain my situation. I've been single (not counting flings) for a really long time. Have had bad experiences with women that have left me a bit bitter, scared, anxious and untrusting of women. So, please bear my dumb questions.
I was introduced to a girl via facebook, I made a compliment on her tagged pic of a mutual friend. apparently, the girl really liked the comment and asked her friend to hook us up.
We've been talking for about a week, and we started texting on Monday or Tuesday of last week. She's been texting me a lot, and so have I. I've even sent texts that didn't say much in particular and she has kept the conversations going many of those times and often a reply within two mins.
she is 19 and I'm 23. sometimes, there is breaks of a couple of hours at most, when we're not texting.
Im afraid of over texting and making it boring. I mean, its really both of us that have kept the texts going, but I originally did not want to text her so much to leave conversation for our date that might happen this weekend. However, she seems to really want to talk to me and I did not want to be rude...but I DO try to not make all my response to quick as to appear a bit busy at times.
We've been texting for a few days in a row back and forth, and our conversations are usually pretty good.
should I lay off the texting? is it a bad idea to be texting her back so much? I don't want her to loose interest but I also don't want her to get bored.
also, her parents are pretty over protective over her. we MIGHT go out this weekend but she has to tell her parents and introduce me to them.
Apparently, the Dad is pretty overprotective and will try to intimidate me. She is also worried that my age might make them uneasy..not a huge difference right?
how should I try and make a good impression?
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Do what you feel. If you enjoy texting her and are having fun, then do it. If you think it's getting boring, then back off a little bit.
Nowadays some people text a LOT. It can be a less intimidating way to get to know someone, such as in your situation. That might be why she's texting you so much. She probably likes the attention from a bit older guy, otherwise she wouldn't bother.
However, the situation with her parents is a little sketchy. I mean clearly, they are really worried about people taking advantage of her, probably because of her looks. And she is still pretty young. But overprotective parents can be annoying to say the least and too much drama in the worst case. One reason she might be texting you so much is because it's one thing she IS allowed by her parents.
Look at you meeting her parents as YOU assessing them rather than the other way around. You want to find out if they're going to have to be approving every date you go on and putting way too much pressure on this girl. If you feel like the dad is just putting up a front to scare away potential players and just wants to make sure you're a good guy, that's one thing. But if he expects you to make sure she's always home by 9pm and gonna bitch you out if you break up with her or something - well, just try to be observant.
Focus on trying to get to know the girl. At 24 it's likely that you might want something more serious than she does. The main issue with age difference is what both sides are looking to get out of the relationship. On the other hand, if she is idealist or naive, she might be more serious than you without really knowing what she's getting into. Just be aware of all this. If you decide you really like her as a person, things could work out. Just realize that if most people see her as a 10, there could be quite a bit of drama in her life.2