Should I date a guy who has slept around?

there is this really great guy I am interested in who is also interested in me. he's cute and nice and funny and I really like hanging out with him. the thing is he has slept with every girl he's dated (like 8 girls I think). I am a virgin and I'm afraid he'll want sex from me. I don't wanna have sex till I'm married. also I'm kinda worried about my rep if I date a man whore. what do you think?


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Most Helpful Girl

  • Every guy wants sex. Just because you date a guy doesn't mean that you have to have sex with him. Maybe he sees something different from you u can't judge someone from what uve heard about them. I don't think him sleeping with every girl he has dated makes him a whore, I mean the girls each decided that they want to sleep with him too. Some people are more open then others. There's this guy who likes me right now and he has slept with who knows many and he was honest about it. It is a turn off and I know that he wants sex from me. But I'm also a virgin (22) and justing waiting for the right guy not marriage and he knows that. He says that he likes the fact that I am different than the other girls he knows. I'm sure that he respects that and I give him boundaries as to the things that I will and will not do sexually. I think about my reputation too because I don't want people thinking that I'm like the other chicks they have seen him with when I'm with him. But at the same time I know that I'm not and you can't care too much about what people say. I think that if you like him its okay to date him. Dating someone doesn't necessarily make you their girlfriend unless you guys are truly exclusive and have had the talk. During this time you can get to know him more and see what he's really like. You only have to go as far with him sexually as you want him to. You can even tell him that you are a virgin but you don't have to say that you are waiting for marriage unless he asks u.

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What Guys Said 1

  • From a guy's perspective, he's mostly looking for sex with you. watch-out!

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What Girls Said 2

  • I would say don't date him, because its very difficult for people to change. I would say that you will just be another notch on his belt. Also you should try finding someone with similar beliefs as yours. But as for this guy, if he sleeps around alot, he will be expecting sex. Respect yourself and don't go for him, be the girl he will remember for the good reasons because you didn't give yourself to him, not the one he remembers as one of his "conquests".

    But if you really think you can trust the guys and he respects your beliefs, thn don't worry about what people think of you. No matter what you do pweople will judge you so you may as well do what makes you happy. Just keep your integrity while your at it.

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  • I agree with the girls below. I am to a virgin (20) and I have known a guy who is 22 and he slept with a handful of girls/ Though the thing is I have known him for eight years, so it is a little different. But the thing is there are people who are willing to change. He has in some ways and he was known as the Man whore and a big time jerk, but he has gotten better trying to be a better guy. I still love him very much and still care for him. There were people who would judge me thinking that I was sleeping with him, but I didn't care because they didn't know me. Bottom line you shouldn't care what other people think of you expecially if they don't know you.

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