OK, so met a guy through online dating. We have exchanged messages on the site almost daily for last 4/5 weeks.
He gave me his personal email address, and again we started to send each other email off site.
He then gave me his number and I gave him mine. As he'd initiated the contact I said I'd give him a call. We agreed a day to call, I did, he didn't answer. He emailed me the next day to apologize as he was working late until like 2am (he is a workaholic so I believe him). I messaged back the next day to say no problem, just call me back when you have time, I appreciate your really busy this week, there is no rush.
He messaged me back the next day and said super, I'll definately give you a call tonight then. I picked up his email quite late that day, and just replied back a two liner acknowledging something else he'd said in his email, and that calling would be cool, speak later. Well he did not call me, and did not email the next day to apologize.
I emailed him the next day to say hey, and just not to worry again as I know he's working late everyday this week, and that we could give each other a call over the weekend instead. He never replied to me.
Well now I'm not sure what to think. Should I call him if he doesn't call? Did I come on too strong / make myself too available? Have I given him leeway to act like this given my previous emails saying don't worry, its OK, and should I now say hey its not OK to keep doing this?
This is really tricky one. I find it hard to believe he has just suddenly lost interest, I mean why would he be so enthusiastic about calling, then literally drop out of contact within 8 hours? It doesn't make any sense. He is the one that has been really pursuing me. Maybe he's unsure about continuing contact ... ? Any ideas anyone?
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He probably was interested in you online, but when it came to actually intiating further contact (phone calls, meeting up, etc.) he chickened out. Since you haven't met in person, you are not "real" to him yet, and he will have less remorse for just
He may say that he is so busy with work, but that is just a cop out. A man interested in a woman will take fifteen minutes out of his day to make a phone call. It would be a highlight in his busy day, not a chore. So stop using this as an excuse for him, because the truth is that he just didn't call you when he said he would.
So here are your options: Just write him off. There are so many fish in the sea, especially when you add online dating in the mix. If he is this nervous and/or flaky this early in the game, he won't make a good partner anyways.
Or you could write him a FINAL email that acknowledges the fact that he has blown you off twice, tell him you understand if he is nervous or unsure about taking the next step, but you will still leave the door open if he wants to talk this week. Don't be surprised if you don't hear from him. End all contact after that email, unless he initiates it.1
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