I have been seeing a girl with a boyfriend for almost a year now. She told me she was unhappy and going to break up, so I thought What the hell. We met at a friends place after a night of drinks and ended up wrestling on the couch for hours. I tried to kiss her but she wouldn't let me. The next day my buddy told me how much she was into me and the next week we did the same thing, only I got to kiss her, and had sex a few days later. As the months went by, she wasn't ditching here boyfriend and I was bugging her, along with a mutual friend who we work with. What ever my "girl" said, this friend would pass it on to me. Things began to die off and I suspected she was looking for other guys and I wasn't good enough anymore.Communication stopped.Hanging out stopped.But she insisted it was her being confused and had lots going on with her life and had little time for me.But there was no one else. I witnessed her lie to her boyfriend, who caught rumours about us, and I had trust issues with her, obviously.
Now just this past week I got a text from her saying she misses me and wanted to make plans for the weekend. She canceled. I find out on Monday, via the mutual friend, that she was at a poker party till 8 am and met a cop (married with a family) who she spent the night on the couch with, flirting (but not kissing). She also said that "my girl" thought he was hot and wanted to go back this week cus he was supposed to be there again. I instantly freaked out because I gave her the opportunity to let me go and she said she still wanted me. I left her a message saying I can't believe how f@$ked up she is. She should have let me go, instead of leading me on and playing the field. I told her I don't want any explanations, cus I saw the bs she told her boyfriend .And that was it. She called and told me I have no right assuming anything and whoever told me was a liar. She said she would never mess around with a married guy. I figured.Why ask her? She will only lie.And it came from the mutual friend who said that's what "my girl" told her. The mutual friend told me cus she knows how much I like this girl and she didn't want me to get hurt. My girl then told me to never talk to her and never message her again.
Was I wrong? I just feel like it is true from what I saw in the past and what she did with this guy was the same thing we did. She told me it was all him.He kept trying to make out with her and cuddle with her and she says she wanted nothing to do with him. I think she had to have given him the right signs. And she stayed all night. What I want to know is should she be that mad? Or is her behavior more of a guilty nature?
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damn man. don't it just SUCK to still catch feelings in a situation you KNOW you shouldnt? she cheated on her man, no, her HUSBAND with you on the first encounter. in your head you shouldve said to yourself, wow, I still got it at 30-35(whatever your age is) and let it end at that. your only mad cause you caught feelings, never mind that she is a cheat and a liar. she is a player, and she may not even feel guilty. I know it sucks when you have sex with a woman and, you make plans to hook up again, and she is screwing another man, BIG hit on the ego!
try really hard to let the feelings go, and not care no more. cause your gonna hurt yourself. I know it gotta suck to be single still, but like I said, you should be happy you still got game, to still get one night stands. being alone sucks, but being with a cheat, is by far, worse than being alone. don't get mad at the mutual friend. just try to let the girl go. anyone caught in their lies, automatically get defensive to try to flip the role, you should know that by now.
let this just be another lesson and move on to one that is NOT married. good luck out there!0