why does this happen over and over and over and over and over and over again?
The girl starts talking to me then disappears. then 4 days 8 days hell even sometimes a month. I get this. "Hey I'm so sorry I haven't gotten back to you sooner I've been so busy with work and this and that and this and that how have you been? write me back soon. Then I do and wait another two weeks. BS! alert BS alert! BS alert! I have the has it been read tracker and they read it right away. Then I get the oh I've been so busy crud a week to two weeks later. Do girls realize that guys know they do this on purpose and don't want to seem too interested. Its so lame. I want a girl who talks! and who wants to know about me and isn't afraid to seem a little needy and goofy and lets her true self show. Seriously, disappearing and seeming aloof isn't that attractive. Why are you on a dating sight if your going to be this way?
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I think you probably wait too long to ask for the phone number or meet up. I date online too, and I may be interested in a guy, but I get pretty board if we're just messaging back and forth and back and forth... You really can't tell about a person unless you meet face to face. And people don't tend to feel obligated to answer back to a person who is a stranger they have never met.
You should ask for a phone number or to meet up within the same week of contacting her.
I am the type of girl that is not desperate and has an interesting life (and that is probably what you are looking for, too) and if he doesn't ask to meet me within a week or two, I get bored with him and stop answering.0