I am a single Mom with 2 young daughters, and I am just curious what the majority of men are REALLY thinking about it. I personally would not bring a date around my kids unless I knew it was a serious relationship. Anyways, does it scare you away as soon as you find out she has kids? Does it depend on how her kids are? (lol) Cmon, spill it all! Thanks! :-)
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If you're not talking about relationships by accident, where people actually go out and seek the people they want to date and then find out about your kids and say "no thanks". Well, quite frankly, most men choose not to get into relationships children are in the mix for the same reasons couples use birth control. It's an undesired responsibility and complication to the relationship and there are plenty of other women out there without kids, so why put yourself through the hassle and difficulty.
The reality is that if someone you're dating isn't ready for the baggage you're bringing to the table, then the two of you aren't going to be dating very long. That doesn't mean you hide it, it just means you, and you alone, have a responsibility which includes bearing the burden that sometimes people will avoid dating you. Having kids is one of the most important decisions you can make, so if things don't work out let this be a lesson for anyone else thinking about your situation and the possible ramifications of being undateable to a good chunk of the opposite sex.
Sometimes life isn't fair and quite frankly this is one of those times.2