A few weeks ago my boyfriend cheated on me. He said he chose me but is still speaking to the girl on a daily basis. She has asked him to be her boyfriend and flirts with him through text messages and IM. He says he wants to just "be her friend", but this includes spending time with her and talking to her on a daily basis. He says that he is not cheating on me anymore, but how can I believe that when he hides his phone so I can't see the messages sent back and forth? I need this girl to stop being ignorant and leave he and I alone.
I don't know what to do anymore. I want to stay with him, no breaking up. Any advice?
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Sorry, the girl isn't being ignorant, she's acting on her interest. It's not like she's anything to you. But your boyfriend is. Not that it entitles you to look at his personal things like his phone but that entitles you to say "oh, come on. You can be friend with other girls on haven't cheated on me with. But you forfeited your benefit of the doubt the moment you kissed her."
Yeah, he won't like it, he might call you a jealous control freak, but he brought this on himself. People seem to think that being on a relationship forces the other to completely trust, but trust should be earned. And he blew it with this one girl. You forgave him, good for you (I think). But he can't expect you to be OK with this.
Or dump him and get a boyfriend the is a little more concerned with not giving you reasons to feel jealous.2
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