I recently met a man online. (He is 49, I am 37). We emailed enough to establish we wanted to meet. We then exchanged phone numbers, personal emails, etc. We set up the first date and didn't really communicate until we met. First date: We met on a Friday and had a GREAT connection. We both were pleasantly surprised... great conversation and great chemistry. The 1 hr dinner turned into dinner and a movie and a great good night kiss. He said all the things I like to hear "you're so beautiful", "I could kiss you all night" yadda yadda... We immediately set up our next date for Tuesday. The next afternoon, I get a text asking if I can go out tonight too. Date 2: I happened to be available, so we went to watch a band and hang out at his house. Again a fantastic date! Good conversation, laughing, fun…etc. Chemistry was again awesome…great kissing! He then confirmed our date for Tuesday. And again… really no communication after the date except to confirm the next one. Date 3: We met for a movie, again had a great time, good chemistry and set up date #4. The next day, he cancels because he has to leave to go out of town for work on Friday instead of Monday. So, it’s now been 1 week since he canceled and I haven’t heard from him. This wouldn’t be a big deal but I emailed him a very short “Hope things are going well and you’re getting to enjoy the city” message and he has yet to respond. I know he has been on the online dating site because it shows he was active. And I know for sure he is actually out of town and wasn’t lying about that. So… I’m totally confused as to why he hasn’t contacted me when he clearly showed interest enough to ask for a 4th date. Am I being paranoid or is he just not that into me? And… if he isn’t interested, why wouldn’t he just text me “thanks but no thanks?”.
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The being on the dating site still would bother me. But as for the rest - my boyfriend is a great guy - bad communicater. For whatever reason, he just expects me to know things sometimes. He gets wrapped up in work and forgets to call or text and yes has even forgotten dates.
I get mad and give him what for and he feels bad, but the fact remains, he just gets side tracked and forgets. He's not trying to be hurtful or inconsiderate he just gets caught up in whatever he is doing and forgets.
Is it right? No.
Is it fair? No.
it's just the way it is sometimes.
the rest of the time he is a caring, loving, attentive mate. But on
occasion he falls into the one track zone where he can only think of one thing at a time.
In short - he just a guy. We love them in spite of their flaws and they love us in spite of ours.
Give it a little time and him the beifit of the doubt.
if he comes back, watch for signs of a pattern in this. If you get into a relationship you will need to let him know what you find as exeptable in a relationship as far as communication or lack there of. But for right now, just sit back and see what happenes0